Custody and CMS

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Hi, has anyone had an experience where ex fighted 50/50 custody to not pay child maintenance?
We have child arrangement order for my ex to have children EOW and one night on the weekends in between. He loves his money though is he likely to be able to change the arrangement?

Are you sure the dad wants 50:50 to not pay maintenance or could it be because he lives his children and wants to spend time with them? How woukd you feel if you only say your kids EOW?

Sent would it be avoiding maintenance if he wants 50/50 split?

Yeah Im sure of that. I did offer him more he didnt want as he wants to do overtimes. He doesnt buy them anything yet he bought himself a car, goes out etc. Ehh

Personally I think contact should be split 50:50 - children have 2 parents, why shouldn’t contact be split. My OH has 2 kids and he only gets to see them EOW - it’s not enough for the kids.

Why not give it a go?

My son has an autism. He is not coping with changes well. Since he has 1 stable environment he made great progress and is now starting to speak. If we had 50/50 he would have to stay in care (my ex working hours) and he needs 1-1 (safety related) so not easy to provide. Im not saying his progress is due only to that, I think therapy does that too. Im struggling with money as all that costs so had to filed as my ex refused to contribute at all. Im anxious though and wanted to know how possible it is for him to change.

Ok, that puts a different light on things. You have to do what’s best for your child.

Yes. Its very hard to balance all out sometimes, but sometimes the other side refuses to step up which makes it even harder. I wished things were different but well...Im struggling emotionally with it all too but my children are happy and settled - that keeps me going.