Saturday night... anyone else home alone with kids and fancy a chat / moan!

[anotherfail]

Hi everyone,

So it’s another Sat night and much like every other night I’m home alone with my kids. They’re happily watching a film but I’m craving some adult company and, if I’m honest, feeling a little sorry for myself.

Thems the breaks I guess, but it’s hard and I start imagining everyone else having fun 😕

Hi Eve.
I’m Hampshire too. Waves. South coast. I would PM you but I’m a technofucktard and have no idea how to!
Sorry I haven’t been on today. Been filling my day with ferrying kids about and laundry. Get me!! I think we should have this as an ongoing lone parents moaning thread. In the spirit if the dating thread. Mutual support and encouragement.

Gast.
Sorry to hear you’re having a shit day. Hear to listen.

Anotherfail have pm you. Hope you find it. I'm not very Tecnical either.

So it's Monday morning and it begins again!

Why can't children just get ready for school nicely allowing me to at least look half presentable for work.

Know how you're feeling everyone. And you feel embarrassed admitting to people how lonely you actually. People not in your position really don't get it.
My DS is 2 and it's hard to find things to do constantly, plus the money situation isn't the greatest being a lone parent.
Hope everyones week is better than the last

Yes pink pixie I think they often do everything but what you want them to particularly when you are in a rush to get somewhere yourself

Mine never get ready without a fuss so we're always rushing in the morning.

Thank you for all your messages of support last night, I lost myself in the tv so I didn't have to think about how I felt.

Morning all.

I was spared Monday morning dramas as my 2 have an inset day. They are both glued to screens whilst I work. It's actually lovely and peaceful, although the parental guilt will kick in and then I'll have to try and encourage them to do something more productive.

berriesandcream21: interesting comments about the loneliness and others really not understanding, I spoke to my DM last night and I could tell she didn't get it. Her response was, but you've had the children with you all weekend, how can you be lonely?

Regarding the loneliness - I find the comments from couples friends the hardest. The whole oh I'd love a night on my own to eat what I wanted, control the tv and have the bed to myself.
Well yes it's lovely as a novelty but not when it's every night, night after night!

Afternoon all

Our morning went smoothly. Long may it last.

I think it is the enormity of being alone and responsible for what could possibly be forever. It is over whelming.

Kids dad use to work away for long periods. Being single is very different to being in a couple with one working away.

I just hope it isnt for ever. Although I'm not in any rush to meet someone new. It is early days for me. And couldn't even think about being with someone else.

Eve yes that’s it. It’s the knowing there’s no one to come and help and no respite.
It’s my bday today, first as a single parent and it’s been hard!

Happy birthday 🎂 @Wolfcub

Thank you

Happy birthday wolf. Hope you managed to do something nice today. I am dealing with all the first this year twat badger left New Year's Eve. It all sucks, but trying my best to plan things. Keep busy and be positive. I know it isn't always that easy. Who knows what is around the corner.

Happy birthday for yesterday wolf. I find any significant date hard. I found my birthday especially tough this year as my DS was at his dad's and I spent the evening alone.

Happy birthday wolf - hope you had a good one.

I'm crying on a Tuesday afternoon because I'm facing the weekend alone! How stupid is that.
Kids are due at their dads, and I probably need the break. But friends are all busy or with families and my normal Saturday night drinking buddy is loved up so that's out too. Can't face the idea of 48 hours on my own!

Pink that is so tough I do completely understand. The thought of a whole weekend alone is horrible. I break it into chunks. Sat am afternoon and pm. I plan a job. Say cutting the lawns am. The out in the afternoon maybe hair cut or something. Then something nice for tea and a bit of tv in the evenings. It is really hard to fill though week in week out.

Long term could you volunteer? We are part of a community allotment we do every Saturday morning. And the weekend I don't have the children I volunteer at the nightshelter in the morning. It has helped fill my time without me spending money.

Eve that’s a good idea. I might look into volunteering if ds gets to the point of having whole days or overnight contact with his dad

pink I totally understand I've got a weekend alone too. I'm going to try a running thing saturday morning? Could you maybe do a fitness class or do they have a park run near you? I find exercise helps.lift my mood too.

Another lonely bod here! I have lots of friends but not much childcare options and I feel guilty to go out and use my one option unless I really have to. I went to the park today and saw lots of couples playing with their kids and I cried.

Eesha I'm sorry to hear you have had an upsetting day. There only seems to be lots of couples around because you are paying attention to it. Try not to give it any headspace. I know it is hard. Do you have friends you can meet up with? Hope tomorrow is a better day for you.

I don't think people on the outside get it.

My kids have been with their dad this weekend, my friends knew I was feeling really low last week and not a single one of them could make time for me this weekend and not one of them have even bothered to get in touch with a text or anything. Not even Mum has bothered.

Makes you really question your worth and wonder if anyone would actually miss you if you weren't around any more!

Pink. I'm sorry you are feeling so lonely. No one fully understands unless they have been through it.

The kids dad use to work away for ten week periods. I though I would be ok. But it is the enormity of it just being you and possibly for a long time. I wouldn't wish it on a sole.

Hope you found something to do this weekend x

I agree it’s really hard to be alone when it’s not just a one off. I am facing an entire week alone no ds no dm or df around the week after next and I am dreading it

Wolf I am dreading when the kids go for a full week. I have asked if he wants them for a week in the summer but didn't get a reply. I will keep trying even though I will be lost without them.

I hope you can organise a few things. My mum always use to decorate our bedroom when we went away with my Dad. I understand why now.

Have you tried mn meet ups?