I may possibly be about to really pee xp off, tell me I shouldn't care

[NuttyMuffins]

Xp may possibly be getting a flat on the estate I live on. He has applied and we know there are flats avaiable now so it is just a case of waiting and seeing.

I wanted him to be a bit closer so that he could help out with the kids a bit more.

However, before all this happened I had registered on a housing exchange site and am at the mo in talks with someone about swaping to their house which is about 30 minutes (train and bus ride) away from me now.

My house move is not yet definate, am awaiting a few more bits of info from the woman, but it's a lovely house, in a lovely area and has very god primary and secondary schools.

I have this niggly doubt in the back of my mind though that I would be being unfair to xp. I know it's silly as when has he ever been fair to me, but I am just that type of person.

So, tell me to stop thinking about him and think of myself and the kids, who would still be able to see him, but probably only once a week.

your responsibilty is to yoru children not your xp.

if its a good house in a good area and is teh best thing for you and yoru children you should go for it.

he hasn't movedinto the new flat yet and if you do move he can always change his mind and canel his aplpictaion.

Is it nearer your family?

Do what's best for you and the children.

But I do recall reading that you would have liked him more involved with the school run etc..

Would he still be able to do this if you lived 30 mins away? Would he still be able to afford the bus journey there?

At the end of the day you need to suit yourself, you have spent far too long pleasing other people

(Do you want it nearer your family?)

your priority is your children. How often do they see dad now?

It is further away from family, which isn't ideal but, once I am driving that really would not be a problem, as by car it is about 20 min away if that.

Tbh i am not entirly happy with him possibly moving so close as I have the feeling he wouldn't leave me alone.

The house i am after is in an area that I love and I think me and the kids would be very happy there. Plus I think I kind of need to make myself more independant and this would help with that, as family would be reachable but not on my doorstep.

At the mo they see their dad roughly once a fortnight. If he moved here it would be several times a week. If we moved probably once a week.

Move

It will give you the shove you need to become independant!!

Looks like they will see their father more often if you move too

Fingers crossed then that the bits of info I am waiting for are good. Just asked for the room sizes as they look a bit small, hopefully it is just the angle of the pics.