Abusive ex and excesive texting

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Hi, need some advice please on abusive ex. I have a court order for child arangememts stating when kids see dad. That its all great but because of shared family event he is harrasing me as he wants children to spend time with his family (my family is coming too). I have already agreed he can have children whole day but he wants to force overnight stay. I dont believe its in children good interest there will be 8 ppl in 2 bedroom and rather small flat (he just wants to show off in front of his family how brilliant dad he is where he prefers to do overtimes than looking after them). Anyway my question is how can I protect myself? I had 15 very long texts telling me im not thinking about children, not doing compromise, about caffcass etc. Im really tired with this all

You just reply "l'm sticking to the court order"

Presumably he took you to court to get fixed contact?

With someone abusive I wouldn't deviate from the contact order at all tbh because he will just continually bully you and make it pointless that you got it in the first place..,

I'm sticking to the court order and will not reply to any further communication on the matter.

Then switch your phone off!

I had to take him to court. He insisted he wants to have children all weekends and was keeping them away like that for 3 mths. He didnt want midweek contact as wants to do overtimes (very well paid). As I work full time I didnt have any quality time with children (both in school).

I guess you right I shouldnt let at all but thats was done in my son request and not because of him.

Is there anything I can do?

I would reply that you agreed to this exception as a one off but if the abuse continues you will retract the offer.

BUT only do this if you will follow through.

Otherwise just ignore the texts, keep a copy for future use if you need them... never deviate again and tell your DC why in age appropriate language.

Thank you for your replies. I will do that as you say and then switch the phone as titchy suggested.
I can follow thorough but I get so worn out with this constant nagging it drains life out of me. I was hoping there is sthg I can do to protect myself but I guess maybe its not serious enough.

Is it the dads contact weekend? If yes, he should have overnight contact.

If not, can you compromise so the kids get to see the dads family? Contact should always be about what’s best for the kids. I bet they don’t see his family as much as yours?

I would consider getting a 2nd sim
Card or cheap phone so you can have it turned off. Google grey rock technique.

It's very frustrating why you try to do the best thing allowing additional contact yet he still pushes/harasses/bullies for more. Try and focus on the fact you don't answer to him anymore

It is my weekend and I did agreed Sunday there so children get that time. Overnight to me is silly idea as there simply is no space plus my younger has autism so its not easy on him with many ppl where he cant find his space. Im not trying to be awkward I just want to protect myself (3 yrs in therapy due to abuse).

Thank you for your kind words.

Based on your update @randonmess response is perfect