Legal advice so stressed

[Louclare]

Hi ...i have just tried to talk to my daughter's dad regarding him seeing her sometimes without partner and he got angry threatening court etc....i am so stressed and upset I don't know where to turn. I have always been reasonable and let him see her even though he left before she was born .I work but I have 2 kids I support I can't afford solicitors also don't want to go to war and affect my daughter .

You can’t dictate that he sees your daughter without your partner. What he does in FMH is time has nothing to do with you. Just like he can’t dictate what you do.

If this went to court he would be awarded contact. You say ‘I have always ‘let him’.... sounds very controlling.

I mean he was an absent dad and I haven't stopped him seeing her he only been around few months our daughter's two.i said I want him to prove he going to stick around before I add him in birth certificate he was asked when she was born and said no and would never want to.now he saying he will do this and that.i am still waiting for support to get sorted

I disagree. If he's just cane back into your child's life then he should be seeing her without his partner to build their relationship first. If you went through court and contact was granted I'm pretty sure it's one on one contact.

I just thought it would good for her to have some time the two of them as the big absence I have allowed it as I felt he wouldn't bother otherwise.i don't want to have to go to court or mediation if can help it .I have been more then reasonable I had them in my house

No, the courts won’t dictate who can and can’t be around on the fathers contact time, it’s up to the dad.

Just like he can’t dictate who you have around the child.