Change of name

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Has anyone experience of reverting to their maiden name post divorce? I am seriously considering it. My married surname is quite unusual and I feel therefore links me ( now unnecessarily with my ex) and also as he left me I feel a little like I am being dishonest when I call myself Mrs ....

However I am concerned about the effect on my 7 year old daughter.

Any comments? Also does anyone know how to go about the process of changing surname?

Of course change your name back to your maiden name, what's to consider? It is who you are. I'm not sure if there is any process involved if you get divorced, hopefully someone with more experience will be along to help advice on this! Surely just write a letter to banks etc. saying you are now divorced so reverting to maiden name?

Can't think why it would negatively effect your dd. Where you thinking of changing her name too?

Thanks Climbingwalls. Glad that you are positive about this. When I've casually mentioned changing my name to my daughter she then wants to change her name as well to be the same as me. There is no way her Dad will agree to this ( and to be honest I don't suppose I can blame him). I've tried explaining that I would be taking my Dad's name and she should keep her Dad's name etc.

There is of course a lesson to be learnt here. Whilst I can never imagine getting married again I without doubt would never surrender my surname again!

Glad you won't surrender your name again!

The explanation you gave your dd about you having your father's name and her having hers is really nice I think,let her know it doesn't actually have to effect anything apart from what's written on official documents, so her friends etc. don't have to know you have different names if she's worried about that?

Alternatively, you do know she can refer to herself by any name so could always use your maiden name too and just have her surname on official things like passport and birth dertificate etc.? I don't think this would be necessary though, does she see her dad? Does she have a good relationship with him? If so tell her it's a nice thing she gets to keep to remind her of him when he's not around.

My DS does't know his father and although I haven't changed his name officially yet he is known by my sirname at school, doctors etc. they are all very understanding...

Hello.

When i became divorced yonks ago after a short time of being married i called the banks, doctors etc and told them that i was changing back and i dont think even one asked for any proof. They did when i married but not before i got my divorce as i had to wait to be married a yr before i could apply and like you i have a very long spanish name i didnt want to keep it.

I felt so much better when it was changed back