Really gets me in the evening

[RosemaryLemonxx]

My days tend to be busy, and I don't think all that much about the fact I am a lone parent. But it hurts. When I'm sitting down in the evening on my own. Not a question really, just needed a shoulder to cry on..

I know how you feel. Sometimes just need that hug and someone to say everything's going to alright.

I know the feeling, every evening is the same. Stuck in the house with nothing to do and nobody to talk to, it's not much fun is it.

Same here. I spend most of my evenings running on the tred mill and listening to an audiobook or working. If I just sit in front of the TV then I'd definitely feel the alone-ness of all.
Keep busy; find something you enjoy and find relaxing. I know it's so rubbish to say "find an indoor hobby" but it could help.
Just keep busy

I hear you. It sucks. Once DS is in bed at 7 I can go 12 hours without talking to anyone, and then in the morning it’s just to him and with him being 10mo the conversation isn’t exactly sparkling.
It’s that bullshit of trying to keep busy. But sometimes I find just letting it wash over me and having a good cry about it it’s really helpful x

It’s the people that tell you it will get better.
I want to say ‘Really?’
I get futile comments such as ‘I don’t know how you do it’ - I don’t have any other choice... and ‘Love will find you when you least expect it’....
Two years on and it’s still pretty shit.

Yup I get you every evening with just the tv is pretty shit. No money for babysitters to go out even to gym.

@lostmykeys it’s people who, with a partner, say ‘oh I feel like a single parent’that really piss me off.
No you fucking don’t. You feel alone maybe, but you have someone to voice your concerns to, to help, to lighten the load.

I love the "I don't know how you do it" comments. People are pretty much saying 'I couldn't cope with a life as shit as yours' I'm trying to find an indoor hobby, what do people do?! I need something I can pick up and put down as I have a toddler and a 4 month old. I swear, every time I sit down to do something one of them cries!

I’m currently making Pom poms. Fucking Pom poms. I’m 33. I’m funny. Got a cracking rack. And I’m making bloody Pom poms. I’m going to use them to recover an ottoman. Exciting times in my house you know!

@frogcow that’s a huge part of the loneliness. Not even to have someone to sit with in comfortable silence! Having someone close enough not to judge and help you make decisions. Sigh.

@lostmykeys totally. I’d love someone to talk things through with, to help make decisions together. But then I remember who DS’s dad is and I’m very thankful we’re not together anymore!

@frogcow I can only dream of doing something as exciting as making pom poms. I have spent my evening reorganizing my bathroom cabinet and folding laundry! I really miss idle conversation whilst watching tv and having someone to laugh with...I can't remember the last time I laughed or had an engaging conversation.

@racoon feel free to reorganise my bathroom, is a bomb site.
I need to remember I’m lucky that I have a good bunch of people who I work with, and, as much as it’s only during working hours, sometimes I don’t feel so alone. DS goes to his dads on a Sunday and I can find myself not even speaking for 24 hours, whixh can’t be healthy.

@frogcow I'm going that stir crazy that I would actually take you up on that offer! It's good that you enjoy work. I'm looking into going back to work, I have been a SAHM but dh died a few months ago and like you said, I could go days without talking to anyone. It's not even like when you're young and single where you can choose to go out and socialise or even just a change of scenery as usually you can't leave the house coz you've got kids in bed.

@racoon ah man that’s shit, I can’t imagine how tough that must be for you all.
Ah you looking for a particular type of job? I enjoy my job as much as most, but I think I like that it gets me out of the house and with other adults the most.

I'd planned to retrain but think my best option is to go back to what I was doing before. It'd be more of a social/save my own sanity kind of thing! I've only realised since dh's death just how small my social circle had become so I'm trying to rectify that.