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Constant maintenance battles

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Daydreamer2407 · 28/04/2018 09:12

I'm so tired of the maintenance battles with my eldest daughters dad. He's quit his job so I can't go through cms but it's like he loves to be in control with the maintenance as it's all he has left to be in control of. He will always pay it late and will make me ask for it. I do count that as part of my income and use it to pay for things for dd1. Once again this month he's withheld it so Iv had to message and ask for it. He then basically said that as I'm going out with friends on Saturday night, I'm using the maintenance for this and he wanted me to 'admit' this to him in order to get the maintenance. He has belittled me and made me feel worthless and stated that I'd put a night out before my children which isn't true. It's nothing to do with him what I do at the weekend surely? It's made me so upset.

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alisaaa · 29/04/2018 00:32

What a c* .

eve34 · 29/04/2018 14:48

So sorry you are in this situation. I don't see any answer I'm afraid of the cms can't get involved. As you say he likes the control. But you are right he has no right to ask you what you spend your money on. And I am sure your daughter is not going without so he should butt out

Starlight2345 · 29/04/2018 16:42

Your problem you are right is you will get £7 a week through cms if he is on benefits.

How does he know you were out I would restrict any information between the two of you

Daydreamer2407 · 30/04/2018 15:41

He asked my daughter if I was going out which isn't fair. I don't even care how much he pays but I'd like him to just pay it on time instead of holding it back and dictating how I spend it when I earn my own money and he has no right

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