Ex slags me off to child

[stressedandskint]

I'm finding it really difficult to keep biting my tongue.

"Dad said he doesn't like you"
"Dad said you don't spend enough time with me" even though I definitely do
"Dad said he loves everyone in the world except you"
And other horrible things that I can't think of off the top of my head but you get the picture.
I can never do anything right in his eyes, he has to find fault with everything I do

The child is 5 by the way and is just repeating what he's said in conversation. I don't ask her what he's said but obviously I ask how her weekend was. I'm sick of hearing these nasty little comments. It's pretty much every week. I'm really positive about him, never say a bad word against him. He can be awful sometimes so I can't confront him about it, he'd just get worse. There's a history of violence (one isolated physical incident and a few years of emotional abuse) so I'm very careful not to rock the boat.

This is classed as alienation . I don’t know how to solve it but may be worth posting in legal

Ime a judge won't take this lightly. Stop contact until he takes you to court. Your dc needs protecting, and so does your relationship with your dc.

I agree.

Poor you and your poor little boy.

Do you currently have an official agreement for contact or is just between the two of you?

My ex brainwashed my ds's for years, even told them I was a prostitute!! When they were old enough 2 came to me ft and nc with their df. You do your dc no favours doing nothing to protect him. None of this he needs a df shit, he doesn't need one like him.

I'll look up alienation Starlight, thanks.

Thanks for all your responses. It's helped me to realise I'm not being silly about it, this is something I need to carefully monitor.

Don’t stop contact, if you go you will look like the bad guy. Contact isn’t for you to control or dictate. Sickens me what I hear that advice.

Parential alienation is a US phenomenon, hardly recognised in the UK.

Write to your EX and ask him to stop. That’s all you can do. You can’t control what goes on at his house, just like he can’t control what goes on at yours.