Am I selfish for leaving

[hollyindie]

Hi everyone

I've really struggled with my relationship with my partner of 3 years it's been difficult since I was pregnant and had our little boy.
Basically I found out about how selfish he is since I've depended on him more when I was really poorly in pregnancy and struggled with postnatal depression. He won't do anything to help me and baby when he is at home. He finds every reason to stay at work later etc.
We argue all the time now and tbh I'm just at the point where I can't fight no more.

I feel I have our baby to look after and he is the bigger baby. Spends money we don't have, spends all day on his phone when At home or upstairs away from me and our baby, he is so lazy he won't wash up or clean or anything to help me out. He doesn't have a stressful job he is a bus driver so it's not as if he needs peace when he is home.

His only conversation is about how tired he is or how boring work is and how he can't be bothered. Every time I'm busy with baby he sits and complains about how poorly he is or something silly!!
I've tried talking to him about helping me out and I've tried helping them two bond but he just shouts at baby if he is upset and that stresses me and baby out.

We've just had a massive argument because he promised me a lie in today but that didn't happen he ended up out all night and then he gets up about 11am and can't understand why I'm upset.

I'm ready to leave but is that me being selfish on our baby?

He also just told me to fu*k off in this latest argument

Not at all in my opinion. You’re going it alone as it is, might as well do it without having an overgrown man child to contend with too.
He can still be a father if you’ve separated.

Do what’s right for you.

Read the update. Definitely not being selfish. Your child needs to be protected from his abusive language. As do you!

No, you aren't being selfish, you are being realistic.
If he won't help, spends money you don't have, shouts at the baby and tells you to F...off, then he is not a partner, he is a liability.
You have your hands full with your baby, you don't need that kind of grief

If leaving brings him to his senses there might be something worth saving but if not, you will be saving yourself years of stress.