Introducing new boyf - when, tips and thoughts please

[jellyjelly]

Hello.

I have been a single parent for almost a yr. I have a 4.5 yr old boy who sees his dad every other weekend. He got chucked out by me and set up home with girlfriend straight away. They are still together so ds has seen daddy in a new relationship. She has a child that is a yr younger than our ds. This is just background.

I have started to date a bloke the first since i split with his daddy. I really like him and he has 2 kids himself, one the same age and one a yr older. I have not had to introduce a bloke to him before and just really wanted tips. When to stay over and let ds see him in bed. When to meet his etc Should he stay in the spare room then move over in the future?.

Just really want some advice on how best to handle it. DS says he wants me to have a boyfriend and another baby. Hold on there ds!!!!

When I met my chap I had been single for 2 years, I introduced him to my dc early on (having always thought I would wait until I really got to know a new man before my dc met him}But then thought if he doesn't like my dc and more importantly, they don't like him, it would be easier to walk away. As we have mutual friends, him and they came over for a Sunday afternoon, had lunch and left early evening. Then he came over to eat a couple of times, the first few times he stayed over, he slept on the sofa bed until dc suggested he share my bed. The rest is history!

#I shared the same view that if they didnt like each other or if said boy was not good with son it would be easy to walk away.

They met very briefly before i put ds to bed one night. they spoke a bit but not sure what the next step shall be.

Perhaps the 3 of you could have an afternoon out somewhere, to give your ds & chap a chance to get to know each other. A word of warning, once my ex got to know I'd met someone, he "interrogated" dc and information gathered was used against me at every opportunity and still is, 6 years down the line. Even though he had left me for a younger woman & they had a child.