Is it a bit late?!?!?

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Changed name for privacy....Just need a safe place to see what others would do in my situation... I'm scared of the potential response...
Long story, abusive relationship with drunk DDs Dad, split last Jan, he had her 3 times alone for 2hrs each time since and had sporadic supervised (by me at his request) contact from Jan-Aug then it petered off. Last saw her for 15mins last August before storming out, swearing because I'd bought DD a balance bike.
Fast forward 6months, apart from about 6 texts of abuse "I'm an arsehole etc" apparently, not really heard from him. I had one text message at the end of Jan saying to never contact him again, he didn't want to know about holidays, addresses or anything to do with our lives until DD asks for him. I also had one saying he was taking antidepressants-just to let me know apparently. Apart from that, nothing - no enquiries about DD or asking for contact nothing.
My parents who I rely on for childcare and are amazing supports are moving around 250miles away from where we live due to my grandmother's bad health (all my family also live there) I want to go too and take DD. But literally yesterday I've had a text saying he wants supervised contact. It's like he's ruling my life!
He will go barmy if I tell him I'm wanting to move. I will offer once a month contact at a contact centre and I'll travel with DD. Am I being unreasonable? He's so controlling and manipulative and I feel like moving is my only chance to have any type of life! I feel on a knife edge, he's threatened to turn up on my doorstep/parents doorsteps if I don't rely to him! I am frightened and barricade doors with chairs every night just in case cos he's got in my head! I've had enough! He's so unpredictable with his behaviour I just want live like this forever :(
(Thanks for getting this far, just had to get it out!)x

Move. Go. It's the best thing for you both. And if he really wants contact as opposed to just wanting to mess with your head, he will go through court and formalise the arrangement.

He sounds awful.

I agree with StillMiss. Is it possible your ex has heard somehow that you’re wanting to move?

No I don't think so. I've not told anybody except for 2 very close friends that wouldn't know how to contact him/don't really know him. Am I being unfair with the contact? I think it's reasonable but I think he'll throw back that I'm stopping him building a relationship with DD. But he's hardly tried so far! He also flies off the handle which makes me wonder what he'll do with the news!

Don’t tell him? Agree to a contact centre but he is to set up sessions and pay for them .. he can then give you a date and time and you can arrive with DD. If you’re doing the travelling he doesn’t need to know where you’re coming from does he?

Agree, don't tell him. If he wants two contact sessions a month, that's doable. And you won't have to barricade any more doors. It'll be worth the cost of travel. Good luck.

Solicitor says I have to tell him I'm moving. He has PR. DD is 2 and doesn't really know him. I don't think twice a month is doable. I've got to try and build a life and DD hates the car. It'll be a 4hr drive each way beat case.

Op, Check train fares, if you book in advance. It might still be less expensive that staying behind and having to pay childcare.