He just wont move on.

[HowamIgoingtocope]

My ex has just blurted out after 7 years separation and seeing the kids every other weekend that he wants 50/50.
The kids are settled in the routine and have evening activities that he has refused to take them too. He also lives 8 miles away and everything they do is near me.
Our son doent cope well with change and in worried about that for him.
He blurted this out when he had lost two of the arguments he went in mediation for right before he brought a list of about 30 things he doesnt like about me.
He has to have some form.of control. The only reason we are doing mediation is the bullying letters from his solicitor didnt make me so his demands.
In at my wits end now. This controlling has to stop.

I do not agree that 50/50 should be the default. It does not suit every child. I've known children who are totally thriving with that arrangement and others who can't bear not to have a "base" most of the time to go from. Fortunately their parents saw this and put their own feelings aside to facilitate what suited the children. Children have different personalities and needs so different arrangements that suit them need to be made.

I know our kids they need a base. Thwy have a good routine. He's attempting to punish me thoughts kids and I will not have them upset because of his bruised ego.