Am I a lone parent with a partner?

[Hildabeast]

Sorry folks, just can't take this any more and begin to doubt if I am reasonable. Why can a man mess with your perspective so badly? I work full-time, my DP spends about 10mins per day with DD, I do everything. All requests met with anger and not speaking.
Dp after row said that it was easy looking after dd, he expects meal every night and is HUGELY angry if I comment on his attitude.

Have been really low, sorry to go on but feel like a 1950's hosewife in a bad movie. I used to be brave and independent, I am trapped and cannot financially cope without him.
He would be crap if we split, he has been divorced twice and always got out of paying ( I now discover), but maybe better to bite bullet. I always wanted dd to live with a mum and dad, what to do?

get a hobby. go out after work and MAKE him get his own dinner and look after dd.
go out on a weekend and let him look after her so he can see that it isn't so easy.

I don't know really. YUou need to have a serious talk with him about how you feel, and what you'd like to see changed. if he isn't willing to do any of it for you well, maybe it won't work out

Wow...was he like this before dd was born?

I would seriously need to tellthis guy that he isliving in cloud cuckoo land!!

he needs to change or lose you - I'dmakethat very clear

Poor you hope you are ok.

Remember that a child is better raised in a happy home with one parent than in a miserable tense home with two unhappy parents.

You have to look after yourself and your child and you sound very upset.

You are not trapped - things may be tough for a while but you can do it and leave if that is what you want.

I left my partner recently as I was miserable - though I thought I'd been putting on a brave face to the outside world a lot of people have said how unhappy I was.

Remember you only get one chance at life so don;t spend it feeling like this.

Hope that has been helpful. Am sure someone with more wisdom than me will be along soon - I have found this board very supportive

do you think he would go to counselling? does he know how strongly you feel about this, in terms of splitting?
if so maybe he would consider it?

yes I think you are all right I do need to make demands. I have been far too whimpy about confrontation, due to the anger and sulking and not talking, but I have to make clear what I expact. I just feel my dd needs her dad and maybe I should just vget on with it until she is at least a little older.

No...don't put up with it for your dd. She will not want a downtrodden and depressed mummy...