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HELP ex mother in law and ex partner trouble

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Gemisagem12 · 22/03/2018 17:58

I’m going to keep this as short as I can but I really need some help.
So my ex partner has been in and out of our now 4 year old daughters life, back in 2014 I had to get police involved (it was a violent relationship and an even more violent break up) I had social services involved, I had an idva involved and MARAC meetings taking place, he threatened to smash my new born against a wall and break all of her bones and I got told by a social worker if I let him near her I risked losing her because I would be classed as putting her in danger, but because I dropped it all, moved house and didn’t press charges his mother says he was never ever violent to me and that I’ve made it up to manipulate him seeing our daughter, anyway, back in August last year our daughter had gone r stay with his mother and I found out he had promised her he would be there when she woke up in the morning but he had left at 2am to go to a girls house so I stopped contact, until a week ago when I let her go there again, under the condition that he not be left alone with her!! Then I find out she’s gone against my wishes let him take her out with his new found girlfriend who a week before phoned the police on him herself!! I’ve has horrible messages on Facebook from
The mother saying she’s going to family courts to get it sorted, I’m a bitter person living in the past and I haven’t moved on, it’s got me in tears and I’m so sick! The day I found out he’d took her out I was physically pacing floors I couldn’t rest I couldn’t eat or sleep but I’m
The one in the wrong in her eyes, where do I go from here I’ve told her to stop contacting me but I’m sick over everytning.

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SunshineAfterRain · 22/03/2018 18:03

Is there are court order in place ?

Grandparents have no rights so she would have chance of going to court.
Ex could go to court for acess but if you have proof of violence etc it would likely be supervised- I hope.

I would change my number and leave them to it.

DancesWithOtters · 22/03/2018 18:11

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Gemisagem12 · 22/03/2018 18:12

No there’s nothing in place, it’s just got me so ill but somehow it’s twisted to make me look like some
Sort of jelous ex

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loobywench · 22/03/2018 18:15

Why are you letting your daughter go there I don't understand?

Fishface77 · 22/03/2018 18:17

I agree with looby. Why are you letting her go there? You know she will always put her son first!

validusername1 · 22/03/2018 18:17

Why on earth have you let your daughter even be in that situation 🤔 especially months apart she won't even know who he is, nevermind to be left with him and his mother I just don't get it. If my ex was like you describe yours he would have to drag me to court to see my child.

Gemisagem12 · 22/03/2018 18:24

Honestly I know it was a stupid decision, he had left his mothers house to live with his new girlfriend and he seemed to be leaving his mother alone as they had fell out, so I gave her the benefit of the doubt she had been asking for a long time and my daughter does really enjoy staying there it just put me through an unbelievable amount of stress

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mineofuselessinformation · 22/03/2018 18:27

Stop the contact as you can't trust her.
Tell her to go ahead and take you to court - she won't win.

validusername1 · 22/03/2018 18:42

Agree with mine, do not let them have any more contact and see them in court if that's the root she wants to go down. She is a grandparent, she has absolutely no rights whatsoever and what her son has put you through is all in your favour. I certainly would not allow them anywhere near my DD anymore.

SunshineAfterRain · 22/03/2018 18:45

The fact you have tried to help contact remain with both ex and his mother shows you care about your dcs best interests.
But you have them both a chance and they have both let you and dc down.
Please don't worry about what they are saying about you not letting them see youyour dc. You are a mother protecting your child.

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