Solicitor letter

[octobersunshine]

I recently posted in respect of my ex partner writing to me to request two overnights per week for our 21 month old son. He has threatened court so I took advice from my solicitor today.

She reaffirmed that his requests would not likely be upheld at court for a number of reasons.

She offered to send a letter on my behalf with counter proposals. I wondered if anyone has experience of whether this would be a good idea or may be provocative and escalatory. I can't quite work out yet whether it would make him understand I'm serious or whether it would prompt him to consider his own legal action and result in court?

You know him. We don't.

Is he being serious or is he doing this to try and get at you or something?

If you ignore him, is he the sort to follow through?

I'd write back with suggestions or ask to attend mediation.

It sounds like you are already nearing court anyway.. if you can..try to de-escalate.. you want to avoid court at all costs for the sake of your kids and your sanity. Can you try mediation?

Question to ask yourself is whether you have grounds to deny him 2 nights a week. What would a court say? Let me tell you my ex tries to strangle me in front of DS and oh so so much more, he threw us out with nothing and abandoned his son....but court just takes it as one word against another and unless there's harm to the child evidenced ....they will want dad to be given a fair chance.

Your solicitor is a legal expert, if she feels counter proposals are good idea, I would think seriously about that. Definitely mediation tho if you can x

Sounds like a tough situation.

All I can say is that don't forget it is always in solicitors interest to escalate things to court... More money for them. And in my experience (Inc family court) there is only ever 1 winner... The solicitor who takes £000s whatever the outcome.

Not trying to be negative or anything but I've learned not to trust solicitors 100%.