Parents Evening

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Who attends parents eve with their ex? How is your relationship with your ex, if you do? Those who don't, do you think not going together is detrimental to your child? Or does it not matter as long as you are both involved, attend separately and do the best you can individually?

We both attend- I find it easier to know what they think and whether we have the same concerns and issues, or whether they are different. However we are finally after 4 years at a point this is possible. Wouldn’t have been 2 years ago. Depends on your coparenting atule and how you both conduct yourself whilst around the other parent. It’s not vital- many couples who are still together don’t necessarily attend parents evening together. I think in a separated household it’s more important to both attend as you don’t have the same relationship at home to be able to discuss things as parents still in a couple do.

Yes, we attend together usually. Last time DS managed to wangle himself into helping with directions, etc. instead of attending appointments, so we only had each other to talk to between appointments. It was good for where appointments ran late or were double booked, one of us could go to each and let the other know how it went.

But we get on fine and are pretty much in agreement with how to deal with any issues we might have with DS.

Me and my ex attend together. Only 10 minutes I can cope with that lol.

ExDP and I go together. He couldn’t make last weeks official one due to being in hospital so I declined it and we’re going next week instead, but him and I are close friends (bizarre I know) and I didn’t want to go without him (although he did go without me once - my waters broke an hour before!)

My ex has never attended a parents evening, either when we were together or since we seperated.

Kids dad never went to a parents evening in the past 6 years ds was at school and we were together.

I have notified him of the parents evening date and time. I'm hoping he won't show up but will of course be civil if he does. I am sure in time it will get easier but right now I want to stab him with a rusty fork.

But I am expecting him to show up this time for appearance sake.

We attend together . We have quite a civil relationship .

We attend together. Last time I couldn't make it so he fed info back to me and I saw teacher separately as there were some other issues I wanted to raise.

We get on fine.

We have separate appointments.

We can be civil but I work 10mins & live 45mins from school so I like an appointment straight after work so that I don't have to make an extra journey whereas his dad wouldn't be home in time for my appointment as he lives close to school but works further away.

I also get on really well with DS's teacher (she taught DD & I was her permanent parent helper for 4 years) so I'm always her last appointment & we have a cuppa & a catch up.

You should attend together - it’s in the best interests of your child seeing mum and dad working together.

My OH has asked his EW to attend parents evening with her. She flatley refuses. When the kids were in primary school not so much of a problem as the school was willing to put a separate slot on for him. Now that the kids are at secondary school they won’t entertain a 2nd slot and the EW refuses to ‘let’ him attend. This in my opinion is really selfish - you have a dad who takes an interest in the child’s education. Surley she can put any bitterness and bad feeling to one side for 10 mins?

Me and the kids dad go to parents evening together. Than way he gets to hear what the teacher has to say first hand and he can ask the teacher question too :)

I always go. My ex has never attended and it doesn't seem to have a detrimental effect.
About 20% of the appointments at our school are one parent meetings, a mix of single parents, those with long commutes, and shift workers. The teachers don't seem to mind, they are more interested in the children.