Having a bad day!

[2kids1me]

Sorry here for a rant!

It’s mothers day, I have 2 kids and I’m pretty much a single parent!
I’m engaged but my kids aren’t his, He helps out etc but the kids ultimately are mine.
My mum didn’t want to do anything this year and I’ve spent the day on my own! And I can’t help but be mad my fiancé couldn’t even find it in himself to arrange anything!
I’m not the mother to his kids no but why could he not be bothered to come out with me and the kids! Why then did he proceed to bloody lay in bed and watch TV whilst I cook dinner and not to mention him not even offering to make breakfast! Today he’s seriously wound me up along with my 11 year old who’s more then capable of making me a cup of tea and a slice of toast! All they’ve done is nag me all day to do something and it’s mothers day not please the bloody kids day!

Sorry if I sound massively ungrateful but I’ve tipped over the edge!

I didn’t want a gift I wanted a day where they actually thought about me for once and not one of them has!

Good enough that I work full time and also deal with the house yet not even arsed to pick up their damn washing or do the dishwasher!

I know I’m being a monster right now but I don’t care! One day a year they have to push the boat out and what did I get.... jack s**t!

Rant over, sorry! X

Doesn't help much i know,but you're not alone,my kids started off lovely but the novelty wore off after an hour,spent the rest of the day arguing,messing what I've already tidied,refusing to make me a cuppa and nagging me to do stuff they want done.

And you're marrying him because.....? The mothers day bit is neither here nor there to be honest but he sounds selfish and lazy! And you're not even married to him yet

It’s terrible isn’t it, then just as annoying I’d do everything I wanted for my mum and she didn’t even seem to want to see me!
I hate days like this, I hope yours gets better x

Today I thought that too, it’s really slapped me in the face that I thought I’d have a family but will I or will this just get worse? Or will he realise it’s his job now to do things for me on days like this? Who bloody knows, can’t talk to him right now or I might lose the plot!

I don't think you're being ungrateful at all! Does he live with you? If he's marrying you then regardless of paternity he's coming in to your family. How old are your DC? If be tempted to spoil myself a bit. Run yourself a nice bath and have some time for yourself while he picks up the slack

*I'd be

I know exactly how you feel my sons at his dads this weekend no card from him, he mentioned that his dad buys something to give to his 'stepmom' though. My daughters dad isn't involved in her life so nothing from her either. So spent the day at home in my pjs with my daughter eating Easter eggs lol hopefully a better day tomorrow.

Sorry you had a rubbish day. He should of helped your children. To make more of an effort

Mine has t been much better I took the children and paid for things for myself for Mother's Day. That makes it miserable.

They tried their best but are not either old enough or thoughtful enough to actually think about me. But I had my children with me for the day and for that I am grateful.

Firstly you and your kids are a family, you don't need a man to complete it. Secondly I sincerely hope you didn't cook his dinner while he lay in bed? Sounds like you've got yourself a cocklodger, unless he's usually very helpful and thoughtful? Have to say though your kids don't sound much better, time to draw up a rota for chores I think. I'd also be telling them I was hurt and disappointed they hadn't thought of you today. Sorry you've had such a crap day .

I did cook dinner whilst he laid in bed! He then proceeded to head back to bed! No bloody thankyou nor even a hand cleaning up!
He’s not very thoughtful at times but he does try help out, he cleaned up yesterday etc but that hasn’t helped today! All I’ve been asked is why my damn face is set and my youngest is 4 so I understand he isn’t going to spare me much thought but my 11 year old waited until 7pm and said shall I make you a cup of tea!!
Almost combusted with anger and now sat listening to her moan she hasn’t done her homework I told her to do 4 billion times since Friday! Think I need to take my grumpy arse to bed! X

If you allow this idle good for nothing to treat you like this, then you are enabling and encouraging his unacceptable behaviour.
I think you need to stop being a martyr and start laying down some ground rules for your relationship.
Decide how to split the chores, decide what you regard as a suitable effort for Mothers’ Day,
decide what you are willing to put up with (and, more importantly, not).
If you don’t get this straightened out now, it will be very much worse when you’re married and he takes you even more for granted.
Please tell yourself that you deserve to be treated with respect and consideration- and then insist on it!

It seems Mother's Day has held a magnifying glass up to your reality. Is what you do for the house "helping out"? Why do you call it that in respect of you OH..... it's doing what needs to be done and should be carried out by everyone in the house that is capable if doing so.

You and everyone else should be respected/respectful and appreciated/appreciative every day. Mother's day should merely celebrate your contribution.

I would be having serious conversations with everyone in the house and an overhaul of how your household operates going forward.

If things don't change or go backwards.... you don't have to put up with it (from the adults anyhow).

Hope things get better.