Need some help with answering dd's questions :(

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Hi,myself and xp hav been split up 9 months now. When we meet up so he can see dd, we obviously try to get on as much as we can but we do sometimes bicker at each other, then the next momment (as he still wants me back) hes trying to hold my hand or kiss me!!

Iv told him over & over this must stop for dd's sake as its too confusing and i was right. Leah is 2 and a half and today she was asking me all these questions like "mummy do you love daddy?" "Wheres daddys home?" and also asking my mum "nanny do you love daddy?" She isnt just asking these out of the blue, i know its bugging her as she was asking nanny and getting annoyed when we both tried to distract and change subject.

I dont know how to answer them. I know i could say i love daddy but not in the way that we cuddle and kiss (if that makes sence) but id be flipping lying! I cant stand the w***!!!!!

Anyway, shes only 2 and a half and already asking me all sorts, so i wana get this sorted now as to what i should say, she just seems to young to be discussing it but at the same time i hate that its worrying her

Xp is with a new women,moved in with her and is meant to be getting married next year. I dont want to tell Leah this till shes much older and understands but is that right or wrong of me to keep certain things, im so confused as to wat she needs to know and how to say it
Any ideas please

Sounds a bit like when I split from my XH , prob would be better tbh if he saw her on her own (you go somewhere else) then it will be more obvious you are apart (and he won't be able to kiss you)DOn't argue or anything in from of her either as she will get more confused.

Answer her with something one the lines of 'mumy and daddy don't want to live to gether anymore but we both love you very much'

I agree with with Mrswho. Kids are adaptable. if you've split, is there any reason he has to visit her? Can he not have her for a day or night at the weekend at his?

I know this could create new problems regarding his new mrs, but your little one is obviously really confused about whats going on with you both. Kids are fine as long as the rules are clear, and they know whats happening and when.

Could he not say have dd at his mums, and not involve his new woman until dd accepts you are no longer together.

what on earth is he doing kissing you and trying to get you back if he is engaged to someone else?

he is a smooth operator though to get engaged in less than 9months. i bet your glad to get rid of him.

I would try and talk to him away from your Dd and tell him that friends is fine but if he tries to touch you in an overly friendly way again you will have to reconsider hand over of your dd.
it may be easier to have your mum stay for contact instead of you so thathe will have to concentrate on your DD rather than you.

I would also tell him if he tries it on again i would tell his fiance.

Hi, this is all very complicated, the touching and trying to kiss has stopped which is great now. Unfortunetly x partner has never done a thing for dd LITERALLY, not done a thing, he doesnt atually understand her when she talks. It thats bad i wouldnt trust him with her, he hasnt a clue with routine or no common sence in general when it comes to his own child. He is currenrtly being charged for ABH with a fight. Hes never had her for even 5 mins on his own and wouldnt trust him for that lenght of time either. Also, his mum has smoked drugs infront of my dd b4 which i went complety LOOPY about so theres no inbetween. I will only let him see her when im there.

Hes so messed up in the head though its driving me crazy. He asks infront of dd if im sleeping with other men, and disgusting personal random sexual questions in public which i wont go into.

So anyway lol, thanks for replys. Things hav been better since xp has stopped the touching feely stuff and dd doesnt ask questions, infact doesnt even mention him!!

So now, its just the arguing and raised voices that he needs to stop doing, which i think will be ok as i ignore him and simply dont stoop to his silly level!!

Thanks again, no doubt i'l b needing more advise soon!! x