I'll try and make this as brief as possible. I have you kids under 5 from a previous relationship, their dad used to have contact but randomly stopped one day and moved 200 miles away (New GF).
Now its just my kids and me. I've been dating a guy for nearly 2 years now and it's difficult as we are a few hours apart. I don't have many family members close by so its difficult for me to visit him (plus trains want an organ as a payment!) so our relationship mainly revolves around him making the trip, staying a few days then heading home.
We made the mistake of not really having a serious conversation when we started dating and left it seemingly too late.
His future plans seam to revolve around me uprooting and moving to him but only when the kids are older so around another 5+ years of the current situation before we even live together.
I feel I'm being unreasonable in what I want as I don't want to wait that long as he is a few years younger then me and I feel we may want different things.
I don't want to be a casual GF for a possible 7-9 years before we take the first step.
He does have a good career where he is but now exclusive to where he is. He also has no family in the area but has friends.
I don't know weather to continue on and be unsatisfied for several more years, move away and may end up resenting him or call it a day. I don't want to end it as he is a wonderful man and everything I want in a guy but I feel he's maybe not mature enough and a bit selfish for the family life.