Mum guilt

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Hi,

Recently I have been feeling really guilty about letting my mum look after my son. Who’s nearly 10 weeks old, I’ve gotten back into the gym as excercise makes me feel so much better and after everything that has happened throughout pregnancy and being a single parent I feel like I need that head space.

But I can’t help but feel so guilty!!! Does anyone else feel like this? How do you stop yourself from feeling guilty. My mum loves looking after my son but still even though I’m gone an hour/hour and a half it still gets me feeling guilty lol.

Why feel guilty? Your mum is getting quality time with her grandson whom she loves. And your ds is getting to know his gran. They are both happy. I know lots of grans who would give anything for the same closeness. It is something precious.
My mum died before ds was born. When he was 3 I had no support at all, and it started to feel like house arrest. I used to run on the road outside the house after he was asleep. I always stayed within sight of the house so I would hear the smoke alarm. The neighbours must have thought I was barking mad.
So enjoy your gym. Everything is fine.

My son is 4 in a few months and what I have learnt is being a Mom there is always something to feel guilty about. I am a single mom, had an awful pregnancy with sons father, left in alot of debt and have had to go back to work and increase my hours just to make ends meet. I feel that takes alot of time from my son but it can't be helped. I also used to go to the gym. I loved it but the novelty did wear off as i was working and gyming and just putting my son to bed. When I stopped I really felt like i started appreciating the time i had with my son.
I have the odd weekend to myself now and I feel guilty and miss him terribly but he goes to his nan and Grandads who he idolises as much as they do him.
Something that i didn't do for about 18 months was make any time for myself. Which i regret. You need to look after yourself too remember xx

Thanks for your responses 😊 that is very true I never saw it like that. I think aswell when you’re on your own you feel like everything is on you (which it is) that you just feel guilty if anyone helps out.

You have both Made me feel times better xx