What to do?

[Starleaf]

My ex P has just announced via Skype that our 3yr olds half brother has just passed his test, and will be driving his new car when they pick him up this weekend.
He has only just turned seventeen, and has only passed his driving test during the past few days.
I know if we were together I'd have not been happy SS driving our DS this early.
Problem is my ex is unreasonable whenever things don't go his way. He's bound to get nasty, and of course there is no law against his older son driving whoever in his car.
What to do? Should I just send DS off with a smile, and ignore my concerns. Or do I say something?

Difficult one...I know I’d feel the same and not want my dc to go in the car. However, it sounds as though your ex will be in the car too? In which case, I don’t think you can reasonably say no

What the dad does on his time is his business and you have no say. Just like he can’t tell you what to do on your time.

The boy has passed his test - he’s probably safer than many older drivers on the road!

Do you think the dad would seriously jepodise the safety of his own son? I’d let it go.

I took my wee brother and his friend for an ice cream the night I passed my test. He was 5.

And it sounds like your ex is going to be in the car too? He said “we”pick up?

Check in advance he has an appropriate seat for your dc. Unfortunately that's as much as you can do. His examiner has passed him and his criteria will be higher than yours!!

Thanks all for your replies. I'd already sort of decided, but you've all helped. I'll do the hand over without mention of who is driving.