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I have a new man !!!!!!! After 5 years alone!!

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miniandme · 03/05/2007 09:02

Well it looks like i may have found a decent one ladies !!!
Been on my own since splitting with ex 5 years ago,got the 3 kids with me one has severe autism and the youngest coming up for assessment of the same thing though definatelty a milder version.Anyway met this guy online a few weeks back,been oput a few times togther he seems lovely a rela gentleman,actually made me feel like a lady for the first time in how long!!
Anyway he met the kids on tuesday wasnt phased by them at all,thought dd was the sweetest thing which is lovely cause she has been rejected by her father her whole 4 years ,he got on the floor with the boys to play playstation,fixed bikes,even made their dinners FGS!!
He is coming back over on friday after his work and then we are going out for a full family day on monday while kids are off school!
The statement that cracked it???? 'when i met you i knew it wasnt one person i was getting to know it was four' !! what more can you ask for eh !!
It feels great ,just had to tell everyone lol and let you know it can happen eventually xxx

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brightwell · 03/05/2007 11:14

Aaahhh that's lovely, good luck to all of you. Hope you all have fun on Monday.

Tinkerbel5 · 03/05/2007 16:31

oh well done thats fab news, best of luck in your new relationship

pirategirl · 03/05/2007 18:26

this is lovely news, i really hope it all goes ok for you. It must be very exciting!!

iamalonelymum · 03/05/2007 21:20

wish you lots of happiness!
you deserve it really.
which website did you meet him? maybe we can check there if any more left.

NuttyMuffins · 03/05/2007 21:22

Awww thats lovely, although I have to confess to reading it and thinking OMG I have only been single for just over a year so that means I still have 4 to go before I meet anyone.

NuttyMuffins · 03/05/2007 21:22

Oh yes tell us the website please.

J20BABY · 03/05/2007 21:34

congratullations, hope it works out well for you

MrsWho · 03/05/2007 21:38

NUtty- I'm almost 6 and it does get better!

NuttyMuffins · 03/05/2007 21:40

Not sure I want it to get better though MrsWho iykwim, I hate being on my own, I just want to meet someone not get used to being on my own, does that make any sense.

MrsWho · 03/05/2007 21:47

but when you are used to been on your own you aren't bothered aout meeting someone (though sex would be nice )

It was different for me though as it took me 18months to actually get over my xh and I still don't meet many blokes I am interested in and I haven't met anyone if I am thinking of potential long term relationships .

NuttyMuffins · 03/05/2007 21:50

Sex !! Now that word does sound familiar

I haven't met anyone yet, not even anyone who is interested in me and me not in them, not anyone at all. Does wonders for my confidence levels I have to say.

Oh and the one/s I am interested in aren't interested in me.

pinknfluffy29 · 03/05/2007 22:47

thats brilliant!!! i met dh online just over 2 years ago and after all the sexy but manipulative, cheating prats i thought he wasnt my type - but he persevered and i thank my lucky stars he did as we are now married and have a gorgeous dd together and he is the best thing that has happened to my ds from a previous relationship and i now know what it is truly like to be a happy loving family and i love it!!!!

wishing you and your family all the luck in world!!!

pinknfluffy29 · 03/05/2007 22:56

oh nutty - my ex did a real number on me and i felt so lost and low until i thought balls to it and signed up with every online (free) dating site and i went on loads of dates and although mostly they were no sparks or there was on one side but not the other it was great ego boost getting your threads on and face on and meeting adults and having conversations etc...

it did wonders for my self esteem and it was only after i started to do this i could cut all ties to my ex and get over him!!!

meeting dh was such an epiphany because he so wasnt/isnt my type and i really wasnt interested in long term just company and fun - until i got pregnant 2 months in and we decided to jump in the deep end. i am so thankful for our little accident because had she not materialised it would have fizzled out (we lived 100 miles apart and work etc..) and now we are a solid family and i am so thankful he is not my type as my type always treated me like crap and cheated and demoralised me.

give the nice/stable/secure/dare i say geeky/boring types a try!!!

snowwonder · 05/05/2007 19:05

lovely story all the best..

and which are the free dating sites

pinknfluffy29 · 05/05/2007 19:58

free sites for meeting people:
datinguk dot co do tuk (one i met hubby on)
midsummerseve dot co dot uk
match dot co uk (think you get a free trial)
faceparty dot co dot uk (bit young narrow searches)

hope you have some luck meeting mr right!!!

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miniandme · 06/05/2007 16:55

WEll i met the said new man on freedating dot co dot uk

Was up mega early this morning which is very unusal for me lol so phoned him to wake him before work he said to me well life cant get any better ,i have a wonderful girlfriend ,3 beautiful kids and a great job what more could i ask for !!
How sweet is this ,though must say it feels soooooooooo right yet so scarey at the same time.

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J20BABY · 06/05/2007 17:26

thats lovely mini

also try plentyoffish for dating those who want to sign up, that is free too x

bagpus · 16/05/2007 14:33

I have a 6 month old, how do you meet anyone new? when do you get the time or the energy. Her dad is still about but is playing mind games and i am fed up with it all but can't seem to make the final break. Feel i should keep trying for her sake but its me who would have to do all of the changing and can't be what i am not. Plus i know he's been out and seen trying it on with other girls, which he denies but my brother saw him.

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miniandme · 16/05/2007 16:07

i was single for 5 years before meeting my new partner so had plenty of time to find myself,the person i am and the person i wanted or used to be.Once i had myself in the right frame of mind and the kids settled it was easier to move on to finding a future for us.
I too tried to keep things settled with ex for the kdis etc etc but it was me doing all the work to ensure he had good relationship with them,i stopped it but it was hard and took a long time now the kdis can make up their own minds on him and his actions.

While im on i might as well give an update too we got engaged on monday night The only way to describe him and i is completion,it sounds really sickening but its a perfect description,we have covered so much in the 3 weeks we've been togther,more than many people do in a lifetime together and it feels amazing all round,so there you go it does happen to some of us eventually lol

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Tanee58 · 16/05/2007 16:14

Oh congratulations! What a lovely story. Wishing you all the best and hope everything continues peachy.

Everyone say,

"Aaaah !"

quietmouse · 16/05/2007 20:38

3 weeks miniandme??

did I read that right?

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miniandme · 16/05/2007 20:54

Yes you read right yes it soudns very quick to some people,i have heard it all already from some friends and family,the ones who know me well and what i ahev been through adn have seen me with him know its right for me and him so they dont go off on a hoo ha so much.
The saying that when the right one comes along you will know is soooooooooooooo true in this case!

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quietmouse · 16/05/2007 21:03

oh good for you - you sound very happy!

josiex4 · 19/05/2007 14:00

Wow, what a lovely story hun.,
I wish you well with your new man.
My son has Aspergers, my eldest, he is 9 today.
If you ever want a chat?

tortoise · 19/05/2007 14:07

What a lovely story. All the best for your future together. (Does he have a brother? )
I have been single a year and a half so it gives me hope that one day i will find someone to be really happy with. Some days i love being single and others i wish i had someone else in my life to do family things with that are hard to do alone with 4 DC and no transport!
And 'sex'? I vaguely remember what that is!