Hi everyone,
This is more of a rant. I am currently 8 months pregnant. Father of the baby let me know pretty early on he did not want this situation and would not be supportive to me. I decided I would carry on with pregnancy with or without his support. 8 months in and it's starting to get difficult to put it bluntly. I have gone through entire pregnancy alone both emotionally and financially provided everything that my daughter will need for her first 6 months in the world. I have spent a lot of money buying all good quality things for my baby as she deserves so not complaining at all.. however the father is lingering around neither committing nor completely leaving me to handle things, ultimately leaving me in a state of uncertainty and frustration. I have not asked him for a penny financially, and also have been clear that I do not plan on claiming child support from him as I would not want money to be a source of resentment for him towards my innocent child. Money is not the most important thing. That's not what this is about. I was contacted by the father asking if there is anything I need for the baby as he was encouraged to do so by his family. I told him I had gathered everything that the baby needs, but the only things she still needs are loads of pampers nappies and a few toys and books suitable for 0+ . He said that's fine. I don't think I'm asking a lot at all. Soooo I received a delivery yesterday. 1 box of pampers nappies ( should last a week and a half max) and 1 piece of junk tricycle for a toddler. It clearly states on the box 12+ months. I took the tricycle out of the box and the handle does not even stay on and would need to be glued on for safety. Quite simply it is a badly made toy that is completely unsuited and any idiot can see this. The father is 34. Hes not a stupid man. He has a good job. This toy is a complete insult. And I'm really f angry. In short. I take this as a sign of his willingness to use my daughter to get at me. He really hates me for keeping this baby. Mainly because it wasnt planned and shortly after we split he had gotten back with his ex girlfriend. I am in a difficult situation to say the least. I need to protect my daughter from a man who is only going to begrudge her existence and be spiteful and difficult just to get at me. I have blocked him from contacting my phone because 8 months in I need to protect myself and build up my strength to be a great mum to my little girl. He has proven that he is not willing or able to be fair or even communicate with me without insulting me. He has also shown no interest in contributing anything positive to this situation. So at this point i feel that I need to let him alone and focus on myself and my daughter. And if he does decide at some point that he wants to be involved he will need to go the legal route because quite simply I am not going to put up with his games or stress. I may be painted out to be the bad guy for not welcoming him with open arms from the start but unfortunately I'm in between a rock and a hard place. I'm scared that exposing myself and my daughter to this man may be more damaging.