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39 weeks feeling shitty, low and alone

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Julie1996 · 28/01/2018 01:27

Hi everyone , I’m new to all of this , I found out I was pregnant with my now ex fiancé just a couple of month after my 21st, obviously we were both over the moon at the though of this happening , in July last year things started turning rocky as we were looking for houses , I live near Sheffield and he lives in lincoln so it’s a good hour away , I was with him for almost 2 and a half years and the arguments that were caused by him not answering phone calls / text messages , resulted in me driving down to his raging mad with hormones , to find his friend there having a laugh with him and he didn’t seem to have a care in the world about how I was feeling , since then arguments got more and more intense and caused me a hell of a lot of stress throughout the pregnancy we separated in October , agreed to try again about 2 weeks later but as soon as I got home from his he insisted that my attitude had changed towards him because I’m with my mum ( who he has a massive issue with and has done since July) my mum hasn’t done anything wrong or said anything wrong to him only to step up and be a dad to our unborn child as he was showing no interest in either of us , we’ve now been separated about 3 months and he’s gone from asking how we are and talking to me everyday to only asking me pretty much once a week and asking if there’s any sign of our daughter yet , my emotions are still all over the place and I’m too-into and fro-ing at how to deal with it all , I’m fine during the day it’s at night when my mind starts playing tricks on me , I feel emotionally unstable like I have no one to talk to but my mum is my best friend and I can talk to her about anything , she’s helped me with so much throughout the pregnancy I can’t help but hate my ex for hating her so much when she’s done nothing wrong
Would appreciate some kind help 😞😞

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247mummsy · 28/01/2018 21:21

Hi, I’ve watched your post since this morning and can see you’ve had no response so I just wanted to drop in. He seems very immature. There’s a special bond between Mum and daughter which a guy can never break, she will be there for you no matter what and it’s a shame he has a problem with that, she’s just looking out for you like any mother would do. Hope you’re ok.

user1494270143 · 28/01/2018 21:41

Hi, bless you you are bound to feel emotional and anxious, your hormones are even higher at the end of pregnancy, I had my baby on Christmas Day and had issues with my ex throughout the pregnancy. But my mum was literally my angel and got me through the dark days. She was there when I gave birth and she complete,y dotes on my son. It is very very hard dealing with an ex when pregnant, as it’s hard not to get caught up in emotions that you had/have for him. (I struggled with this and was holding onto someone who wasn’t there anymore),

The best advice I can give you is put you and your baby first. You deserve to be looked after and to be happy! Once you have your baby I can tell you it all becomes worth it, if he’s not willing to be mature leave him to it p, he will soon realise I promise you. The bond between mum and daughter is so special and becomes stronger when you become one.

You have some of the best days of your life ahead of you, it does get better. I have been in your situation and I believ3 you’ll get through it too with a beautiful baby at the end of it!

Kingsclerelass · 28/01/2018 22:36

Oh sweetie, you have every right to feel like that. I can't suggest anything about how to deal with your ex, but over the next few weeks you need to put him aside and concentrate on you and the baby.

Focus on how you're about the meet LO. Congratulations xx

Julie1996 · 28/01/2018 23:12

Thank you for your responses everyone , he just doesn’t get how I’m feeling and likes to cause unessesary stress , he’s playing the victim card when in reality we’re both at fault for the arguments but he’s totally playing the card to his advantage , my mum has been a godsend for me lucky to have her here to support me to be honest , she already dotes on her granddaughter , can’t say the same for his mum as she’s only checking in when she wants to find something out (it’s taken her the best part of 2 weeks to message me - not to see how I am but to see if there’s any baby 👍) none of his family trust that I’ll let them know when I’ve had her but they’ve not been in contact at all or should I say very limited contact , I feel as though they don’t deserve it but I’m being told that I’m using my own daughter as a weapon , I wouldn’t dare use her against anyone 😞😞 just shows how much people change when a baby makes an apperance

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Luxi · 29/01/2018 23:26

Oh my god, reading this it's like I have written it. I'm in exactly the same situation. Long distance relationship and pregnancy sucks. Not long been single and gutted really, would love to have my little family but it just seems like I am here doing everything and he has little interest. Everytime I tried and talk to him about it he would get angry with me which would make me mad and then make me turn into a pregnancy hormonal crazy woman. Yesterday I was so upset, but my baby kicked me like mad all day and I just thought you know what..... we can do this! My mums my best friend too, don't know what I would do or where I would be without here! Xxxx

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