Struggling to cope on my own

[lyssie29]

Although it's been nearly 2 years since their dad died im finding it so hard atm to deal with everything on my own. My 2 year old is definitely in the terrible 2s phase and is also having problems with her hearing and speech delay and my 4 year old is just battling me at every turn. I get annoyed at her very easily and then I feel bad because I know I go over the top but I don't mean to I just get so stressed when they're both running circles around me all day. Does anyone have any tips? Maybe meditation or exercises??

These are some of the toughest years OP....and coupled with your Dad's passing makes them extra hard.

It's very tough because at 2 and 4, they're still very much self obsessed and challenging.

I suggest that you try to get to bed earlier if you're not already...drink more water and cut back on any junky food you might be consuming.

Then, try to make some time for yourself weekly where you can go for a long walk....if you can't go alone, try to get somewhere with a lot of trees and walk with the kids.

There's research which says being among trees really helps with feeling low.x

Sorry to hear you having a hard time :(

The bathroom is a place of calm for me while my babe is asleep. I read a book in the bath. Sometimes I lie on the floor with the shower and extractor fan on - I find the noise very calming hah. I know it sounds weird but I feel like I can't relax in other rooms because the baby has taken them all over!

But if you get time alone try make the most of it and pamper yourself in small ways, and as everyone says, remember this phase is only temporary

Have you heard of the Way Foundation? If you google it you will find it for widow/widower support and you can take the children along also so no worries about childcare. It is a social support group and NOT a dating site.

Good luck if you try it out. A friend swore by it the first years of coping with a baby and being a widow all on her own.