Absent dad

[missydee17]

I have a 7 year old, his dad is on bc but has never been involved in his life from him bein 2 month old ( his choice ) he has had many kids since and the same done to them. I have recently applied for csa and im worried it will open a can of worms and he wil want to c him. IF it was to go to court.. would he stand a chance after 7 years .. i know 100% my son wont wanna c him, im happy to tell him about his dad but my dad has brought him up and he has a very happy life. I dont want to spoil things and upset him ( hes a very big let down) .. any one have any advice ?

From everything I have read unless there would be a safety issue he likely would get contact . However if he has other children he has no contact with he is unlikely to bother esp if there is no legal aid now

I don't think he will bother.

My DS has been bought up by his Grandfather and we are all more than happy, safe and secure, so I get your situation and I wouldn't want to confuse my DS either.

I'll be very suprised if he wanted to see him now.

Hope it goes ok for you, and high fives to the grandads that make up tenfold for absent dads!

Thanks for the replys, i dont c how its right forca court to make him have contact my son wud point blank refuse and it wud kill him. I dont think he will bother he has atleast 5 kids and one on the way.... worthless

SS will ask your DS what he wants!

CAFCASS (SS for the courts) don't usually take the wishes of children into consideration until around ten years old. If he did apply to the courts, he'd most likely get staged contact. So, for example, once a month for a few hours on a Saturday, supervised by you or someone else you could both agree you trust.