Dv / cafcass / court

[missydee17]

My ex is takin me to court, its dv related ( mental abuse and torture ) my social worker has advised me to mention to cafcas for him to go on a perpatrator course for his anger, as wen he has kikd off its always been infront of baby (10 month now ) hes only seen him a hand full of times and times cut short bcos of his attitude and anger. If he goes on this course would he get access before or after it , im terrified. Im scared if he can shout swear and threaten me in front of baby ( first time he was 4 weeks old ) then what if he loses his temper when hes teething or doesnt settle for him ? Cafcass fone call in 2 days

I don't have any advice but do you mind saying what cafcass said about this as I'm trying to get my violent ex put onto this course too and I have the same concerns

They said its a good chance he does the court and access will be considered after or if he agrees to do the course xx

Supervised access if anything x

Thanks for letting me know. I'll ask about it next time I'm in court. Good luck xx

Apparently they can refuse this course but need good reason . My ex has cancelled court. Good luck with urs msg me if u want any advice i will try to help x

I wish my ex would cancel haha he's doing anything he can to not do a drugs test at the minute so I can't deal with anything until he's done that. Thank you for your help so far. Let me know if I can help you too. It's a bloody horrible process ain't it x

Yeh very stressful! Well by him not doin it surely that looks bad for him ?

Yeah I'm getting legal aid because of the d.v so I'm lucky to have a good solicitor on my side so they are hoping worst case will be supervised contact. I'll keep you updated on anything I think might help you if it ever gets to court xx

Aw yes please . U shud try get him on that course tho its 33 weeks !

My ex was ordered onto course no contact at least until its completion. He managed three sessions.

They only put them on the course if they are seeking contact afterwards

My solicitor said the other day that he cant be forced to go onto the course ? Not sayin thats true its just what she said to me. My ex is an arse hes cancelled court now n his mam wants to do it between me n her then wen she gets to know him i wil let her have him n its up to dad if he wants to b there wen she does.. full on mongo.. cant cope with games just want peace.. is that possible ?

It's ahimsa the course can't remember what the acronym course is.

It will be supervised contact

I don’t know your situation but be very careful about Mum supervising contact . I did it but she was unable to prioritise my son over hers . She ultimately was always on her son’s side . She was not a bad person but just couldn’t see her son for what he was.

They cant be forced on to the course but courts tend to not like awarding contact without it

Starlight - ive been round in circles duno how many times with his mam i dont trust her she thinks her son is a saint and its all me. But its all my terms its between me and her only he is out the picture, ive tried to many times wit him and hes kikd off threatened shouted. Its down as dv mental abuse. I said wen baby knows her i wil let her have him startin of slowly and its upto him if he there but thats all im offering so he can c baby wen his mam has him. Hes not on bc or anything hes worthless.. all hes wanted is me. Hes changed his number twice sayin he wil jst see baby wen he older if he wants contact.. its his mam i think who pushed him to court he said he was pressurised