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Maintenance Dilemma

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emski1972 · 08/01/2018 20:51

I’m having a dilemma about money stuff. So I’m earning a really good salary as I have a good job and made some good financial decisions. So I’m financially independent. My ex partner and I split up a year ago after ten years and he needed time to get back on his feet he hadn’t been working for quite a few years and this was a problem. Anyway I know most people receive a monthly payment for their children but he pays for school uniform, clothes, shoes, school clubs etc. Right now we don’t pay for childcare as we are fortunate to have a set up with my mum. I’m having a moral dilemma. Now he seems to be earning and paying his own bills rent etc and has sorted his life out. Do I continue with this arrangement or ask him for a monthly contribution which would be significantly more. Is that greedy? Should the status quo remain. Maybe he should pay into a savings account. What do you think?
We have a very pleasant relationship which has all been agreed very amicably and I wonder if it’s better to work on that.

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Whoknows11 · 08/01/2018 22:04

I’d go through maintenance. What you then do with the money is your choice eg savings Then it’s morally and legally fair x

NorthernSpirit · 08/01/2018 22:17

You should be getting the CSA amount. It’s not being greedy. It’s upto you what you do with the money.

TwoDots · 09/01/2018 13:08

How often does your ex have your child?

HouseworkIsASin10 · 09/01/2018 13:15

How much does uniform, clothes, shoes etc compare with what you would get in maintenance?

I was given a paltry amount years ago, but not a penny more. Ex never even bought DC a pair of socks. No uniform, no winter/summer clothes, no shoes etc. The shitty £25 I got didn't touch the sides.

emski1972 · 09/01/2018 14:39

He has them Wednesdays and every other weekend. Saturday and sometimes Sunday nights. that doesn't seem much does it...I travel quite a bit for work so having massive guilt trips about the time I actually see my kids anyway...I guess I'd get about £400. He is self employed so could be economical with the truth. I wrote and sent him the link etc. Lets see if I get a response...

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