Is it depression?

[ITsDannielle33]

My first born is 4 and is wonderful, a pleasure to be around however my 1 year old is not! I feel awful for how i feel but i just cant get along with her. She doesnt sleep, she screams and cries all the time, i cant even go to the loo in peace without her screaming, its impossible to achieve any kind of task! I blame her for my first getting less attention and i cant help but cry and wish i never had her. Its been a year now and it hasnt got easier like people have told me, infact its worse and i cant see it improving at all. The childrens father is a joke! Refuses to help or offer any kind of support, just threatens thats the social will take my kids if i cant cope with her etc so i feel like i cant speak to a Dr about how im feeling. Question is how do i love my second like i do my first and how do put a stop to the constant crying and screaming and me disliking her?

I'm not sure it's clinical depression, a constantly crying baby is very trying.

First of all, ignore your ex. He doesn't contribute to their care in any practical way so his opinion is irrelevant. In fact don't even discuss the issue with him if he can't be constructive.

No SS department is going to remove a child from its mother because it's a frequent wailer so go and see your GP as soon as possible. He or she will help work out why lo is no restless and how to ease the problems. Can you find a mum and baby group as well so you can chat to other mums and get their tips and ideas?

Try not to be so hard on yourself, you've coped with two children, on your own, for a year. I couldn't have done that, I've only got one and he's enough of a challenge some days.

Don't be so hard on yourself. Your baby is going through separation anxiety. It will pass and there will be a day you can pee in peace.

Two children on your own with no support from their other parent is a form of torture. Don't give any thought to your ex. Get your elder DC in nursery/school for as many hours as you can. If you have your family close by ask them for help. I think if you had 4-5 hours with no DC you could get some sleep and feel much better.