Is it normal/common?

[ThisLittleKitty]

After a conversation with my ex where he stated the only reason why he wanted to see his kids was because he wasn't in a new relationship/had a new family, and looking at me straight in the face and saying it was the same for me and I'm only allowing him to see them because I'm not in a new relationship (this isn't the case for me) it got me wondering how normal/ common it is for men or even women to stop seeing their kids once they've met someone else (or stop allowing the ex to see the kids). How many of you have experienced this? Thanks.

In the case of my ex I can always tell his relationship status because he's actually more reliable/stable when he's in a relationship. At the moment he's backing away from DD and I'm fairly certain he's about to end it with his partner (which is a shame because it will pretty much make him homeless and it will make things a bit shit for DD)

In my case it's never changed because I've always wanted to support DD's relationship with him.

Same as OP here. New relationship means ex disappears completely for a couple of months, leaving a message not to contact him about anything under a threat of reporting me to the police for harassment (I guess his new girlfriend has no idea that he has children, and he does not want her to find out).
Sad really. On the paper the custody is shared 50/50.

My OH is divorced and has 2 children.

When he left the EW she told him that if he left her she wouldn’t let him see the children. For 2 years she used the children as weapons against him. He now has a court ordered agreement.

The children come first and he wound never stop seeing them for a partner. What sort of parent does that?

The mother in the other hand is still difficult. They have been spoilt up for over 5 years, divorced for 4 years. When she has a boyfriend there’s less vitriolic emails and she seems more relaxed.

Just because the parents have a new partner shouldn’t change anything.

mentat does that mean he isnt paying maintenance too?

In CMS this is very much the norm. It was almost always when the Dad got a new partner that contact would lessen or cease and as a result maintenance would start to reduce or stop altogether, making children suffer seems to be the result of many parents actions, not sure they realise what they are actually doing though. I've not had any experience where it happened the other way around but female non resident parents are just not as common. I find it a shame that many parents give new partners priority over their children and how common this appears to be.