Obsessive mother in law

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Hi All, i am pregnant with my first child, my ex partner has made it clear he doesn't want any involvement with the baby or responsibility so I'm going it alone! The only problem is his mum is a very controlling, pushy bullying woman that will be trying to force me to hand my child over to her whenever she feels necessary. My childs father won't be on the birth certificate or have his family name so in the eyes of the law would she have anything to go on? I'm 100% sure she'll try as she did similar to her sonsl and his girlfriend after their baby. Any advice would be great. Thanks.

I'm 99% sure she has some serious issues but they don't need to be mine

Keep telling yourself this.
This woman has no rights over your baby.

The child only needs one decent parent and you can be that parent.
The only way MIL could get her neb in is if you were found to be an unfit mother by an official agency (ie not her). You clearly have your child's best interests at heart.
Ignore her

Make sure you claim child maintenance for your daughter.

She has no rights so let her waste money on legal fees.

If the baby's Dad wants PR, he can easily get it at a later date but it involves him actually doing something so the fact that he's irresponsible will hopefully work in your favour.

I would personally move house, come off social media, change numbers etc

Thanks for all of your advice. I do know she has no moral or legal rights but i think it's the fear of being harassed and having to attend court with her (if it made it that far) that's worrying me the most. If she was a nice woman with firm boundaries in place that just wanted to be a grandparent my feelings would be different but she has made it clear she wants all or nothing and can't see why she can't take my baby when she wants to because she needs time alone to bond with her! It's frightening and i wouldn't wish someone like her on my worst enemy.

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You would not have to attend court with her. She has no legal rights as a Grandmother and would be wasting her time.
Just tell her now, before you have the baby that she will not be having any alone time or bonding with the baby, for a long time, if ever.
If you feel unable to do this, make an appointment with a Solicitor and get them to write to her on your behalf.
You really need to start thinking of yourself and the baby now and not worrying about this wiman.

and can't see why she can't take my baby whenever she wants to

She must be made to see that if she dares to try to take your baby without your consent, you will have to ring the Police.
What she is threatening to do is a very serious crime and the Police will not take it lightly.

I think you need to talk to a solicitor for reassurance. Otherwise, whatever anyone on here says, you will have nagging doubts.

And this is why you have to block her . Anything she says build into your anxiety .

I’m in the same situation , apart from my ex now thinks he’s the dogs bollocks and so does the rest of his family , he’s already decided on when he’s having my daughter overnight and she’s not even here yet , we separated back in October due to him not getting his own way ( he lives in lincoln , I live a good hour away) his mum has taken a backseat since I’ve been about 5 months , he has a major problem with my mum and so does the rest of his family , he’s not going to be on the birth certificate and she isn’t going to have his last name , he’s turned into a completely different person since we separated , part of me is still completely in love with him but another hates the sheer thought of him being my baby’s dad , he’s had no input in the pregnancy since around 20 weeks and now I’ve 1 week left till due date , been under hellish amounts of stress since we first found out and it’s still ongoing , wanting to know what my rights are