i'd like to have a petty rant about dd's dad, who we saw through arrangement by sols at a contact centre today. he usually turns up worse for wear which is annoying because he doesnt make effort with himself for dd. today he just acted like a brat. on arrival, before i could stop him, and refusing a word of explanation, he dumped a holdall in the boot of my car as i was extracting the pushchair (it was full of our wedding stuff). as if he wasnt the one with an empty house to keep all that stuff in. I know hes just probly trying to loosen his emotional ties to me and fair enough, but he could at least tell me. then it turns out during the contact visit he's been feeding 10-month dd super-rich adult choco dessert. again i think some other parents would find this acceptable, but i dont think its suitable at all for such a lo and wish he would consider for a moment what is. then he saw me sitting outside before the contact time was up, which upset him, so he up and left without the ok from the staff, brought dd to me, told his mum to wash dd's bib and pushchair cosy-toe (that wasn't dirty and i do use strangely enough between visits), waited to see if staff would leave us to it (no thank god) then left. when i got home i found an empty 30g bag of choco sweeties in the changing bag no wonder she didnt eat her tea! urgh he's a big kid, and acts as if he wants dd to be older than she is. he was moaning at me when she was 6 months cos she wasnt crawling. the one who needs to grow up is not her!