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[tammybear]

hey, noticed your name change on profiles. how have things been with ex lately?

Hey tb, hows it going? is this your exp visit weekend? Things are good for now for me, but don't worry I always expect the unexpected. A period of normality,(ie not shouting/sarcastic or stony silence) is always followed by a real nasty one. Like the calm before the storm. Had a chat to him on wed re: feeding, development etc and he really seemed to listen. He also told me his father has cancer, but no-one communicates in his household so he has no idea how bad etc.

How are you and dp getting on? I split with mine, it was very painful but it was my decision and am getting over it as best i can, as i know it was for the best.

oh ij, im sorry to hear that. you ok?

me and dp have just been through another rough patch, but still together. what doesnt kill you, only makes you stronger i suppose. exp was suppose to come last weekend, but i told him not to as it was my birthday and we were getting back from holiday. i did say he could come this weekend, but he hasnt said anything to either me or my mum. mum reckons he's going to stop communications with us all together, but i dont believe that. dd is all exp has, so he's not going to just disappear as nice as that would be (slap on the wrist for being mean lol )

ive just been trying to sort things out with my mum as ive been having problems with her too (it all happens at once!!)

im glad to hear he's trying and listening to you now. sorry to hear his father has cancer. maybe this has made him realise a few things. i hope things stay okay for you now.

Yes tb i'm really fine, I did love him but he didn't love me and i'm strong enough to realise that it's better for me to move on. I'd like to settle down and grow old disgracefully with some-one and i knew it wasn't going to be him iykwim.

I'm not fooled EVER by exp being nice, he even said "whats the chances of a shag then" I couldnt believe it!!!!! I am so lucky to have got away from him. So did you have a good holiday, and how was it being away from DD? I looked at foto on your profile, she's a sweetie.

bloody hell, i cant believe he said that to you. think ill take back what i said and if you didnt feel completely happy with dp, then you did the best thing.

my dd came on this holiday with me, and my mum too. its in 4/5 weeks when i go away without her. it was good, dd really enjoyed it. got the holiday photos back so im going to put them up on my profile too as she looks really cute especially on the beach. it rained every day though, but we did have sunny late afternoons/evenings when we made a quick dash to the beach whilst we could

yea tb is like that where i live, we are 1 min walk from beach and it's a case of "drop everything NOW and get to the sea before/after it rains". I had to swim last night at 7pm because ds threw his new floatie out and it was high tide and deep so in i got for the sake of 20 lone parent euros!!! I'm going to be very strong where dp (oops exdp) is concerned, because i know he does really like me and will probably try get back with me. It has happened twice before and i always gave in, but i have told him do not phone me or text me because i can't handle the goodbyes.

What's going on with your mum?

i had an arguement with her the day we got back from holiday/my birthday. not the best of times, but i snapped and had to say things to her, as they had been building up for too long. we are back to talking now so hopefully things will be okay

oh sorry to hear that tb, my mum is so brilliant (but she does live in a different country so we aren't in phsysical contact too often either) and being a lp i don't know what i would do without her. Hope you got the stuff out of your system and can go back to how things were. I'm going to the BAR, talk to you soon x