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Ex quitting job to avoid paying cm

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ThisLittleKitty · 27/11/2017 12:14

Hi I have 4 kids with ex, he has never paid a penny. He doesn't work to avoid paying and instead gets money by renting out his house, which Csa can't do anything about. He's even told me he is going to start claiming pip so he will have even more money! Which I won't be entitled to any for our children. He has recently told me that he is due to start a new job this week. When I said I would be going to CSA he ask me why I "run" to them all the time, err because you refuse to pay a penny! And that why bother as I will only get "pittance" when I told him something is better than nothing he said he just won't bother starting then! How to deal with this!? I'm sick of having nothing and struggling each week. He also doesn't bother to see them through choice. Previously went almost a year (broke up when I was pregnant with the youngest) and seen them again recently but now hasn't bothered again for over 2 weeks.

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AnneLovesGilbert · 27/11/2017 12:17

Sorry he's such a waste of space. You don't have to have any contact with him, especially if he doesn't see the DC.

Keep on at the CMS and hope that soon you'll get something from him.

ThisLittleKitty · 27/11/2017 12:19

Oh how can I forget, whenever I ask him he says "you don't have kids to get paid" like he shouldn't have to help provide :(

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MadMags · 27/11/2017 12:21

Why do you have contact with him if it’s not for him to see his kids?!

WillowWeeping · 27/11/2017 12:23

Go through CSA.

Tell him he’s pathetic and one day his DC will think the same.

ThisLittleKitty · 27/11/2017 12:23

He sees them here and there tbh. When he fancies. Which isn't often. Everyone says I should keep the door open for him to see them even if it is just when he can be bothered.

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MrsSpenserGregson · 27/11/2017 12:30

Urgh, what a bellend he is.

Flowers for the OP.

Starlight2345 · 27/11/2017 16:57

What you do is don't tell him you are contacting the CSA he will still add debt to his claim which doesn't disappear when they turn 18.

Evilstepmum01 · 27/11/2017 17:00

If he's unemployed, is it worth reporting him to benefits if he's not disclosing his rental income? What a twat he is, sorry op!

Butterymuffin · 27/11/2017 17:01

'I didn't have them to get paid, you idiot. Now stop being a tightarse and support your kids like a real man'.

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