Feel like the only one who's not moving on

[NuttyMuffins]

I know I am not the only one but ykwim.

So it's been over a year since me and xp first split up and although I am still very happy with the choice i made, I feel like I am not moving on, and that was one of the many reasons i wanted us to split up, because I didn't like my life and wanted to move on.

So many people on here and in RL seem to split up and start a whole brand new life, get a new job, a new man etc etc and I feel left behind.
Even people who became single way after me, have moved on.

My life is still the saem, only xp isn't here, and thats not how it was meant to be, Him leaving was meant to kick start a new life.

If you are ready to start again, do so, but don't feel you should just because other people do.

I used to leap from relationship to relationship (not anymore, I'm married now) and I envied those brave enough to be on their own for a bit while they recovered and had some time alone.

Don't beat yourself up. It's okay to be on your own.

I don't want to be on my own though, I hate it.

Such a vicious circle though, no friends to go out with so don't go out and never make any friends.

I am so much happier in some ways, but so not happy in so many other ways.

I feel the same Nutty. Problem is I don't really know how to move on. I was with ex-p for about 10 years and we split last summer. I just can't see me ever being anything other than a single mum.

Oh, i just read your second post. I could have written that too. I don't regret the split but I wish I had something to move on to or look forward to.

Snap I was with my xp for 10 years too.

I just so want to have some sort of social life, anything that stops me sititng here on my own, all the bloody time.

Of course if xp had his kids at all then that would help

That's not on at all. My ex-p does have DS a lot. I can't reasonably complain about that, but I sit here feeling like a saddo cos I have all this free time but I've got sod all to do with it. I feel like a right loner sometimes.

Can you not find a hobby to do when your ds is with his dad, or go shopping or something ??

Ikwym though,it is hard to suddenly find you have time to yourself when you are used to having someone there all of the time.

My kids dad doesn't have them at all. He visits them occasionally, like today. They have been off school for 2 weeks, but he hasn't taken them out or anything, just one short visit and thats it.

That's really out of order. My ex-p doesn't really have anything else to do which is why he spends so much time here and with DS. Don't get me wrong I do appreciate it, but I wonder how things will change if/when he meets someone else.

I have hobbies and I keep myself busy but I really miss spending time with another adult. I don't miss ex-p particularly, I just miss having someone to share things with and it depresses me that I can't see things changing.

Yep, I know exactly what you mean.

My youngest starts school in Sept though so hopefully I can sort myself out a bit and get a life then LOL.

Oh well better go to bed, no doubt the kids will be up early

Ok, g'night nutty

My partner left me a year ago and things still are not coming together. It is taking a long time but I hope things will get better soon. So not everyone jumps straight back onto their feet.

Oh i know FE, it just seems that way sometimes.

I just don't feel like I am doing anything different to when he was here, so what was the point ??

Am sick to death of looking for a job, complete waste of time and energy as they all want qualifications or experiance.

Just having a crap couple of days I think.

I read somewhere that it can take 2 years to get over a divorce
I thought at the time - "what rubbish Im not taking that long" - now been 18 months since ex left & I can honestly say that Ive only decided I wouldnt take him back now in the last month....

hang in Nutty - just having a bad few days like you say