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my tosser looser f**king dickhead bastard waster prick wanker of an ex...

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juicychops · 10/04/2007 14:05

... has now quit his f**king job half way through me trying to sort out my CSA payments!

i heard it from his dad this morning as i dont have any contact with ex. I HATE him (and his mum) so so much more than i ever thought i could be capable.

Hes not only lied about loosing work documents and payslips but he has now done this.

I know CSA MIGHT find out where he works next but it is all gunna be fucked up now.

im so angry i want to punch someone!!!!!!!

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Tinkerbel5 · 10/04/2007 15:36

juicy I feel for you, my ex did the same thing after paying maintenance for a few months, for some strange reason some NRP's think that they will be better off on JSA than bringing a wage home and supporting their children, if its any bonus you will be entitled to £5 per week out of his benefits, chin up

AMAZINWOMAN · 10/04/2007 20:05

I read the title of your message and thought how do you know my ex!!!
my ex also refuses to get a job as he would have to pay maintenace, the csa are completely messing my case up too, so im not even getting the £5

glitterfairy · 11/04/2007 23:47

BINGO! My X has announced the very same thing today after an agreement two months ago with the CSA which he has failed to fulfil on every level.

He still manages to pretend to be a christian and rant on about his rights and my bad behaviour PML! He is a dickhead and a complete loser they should all join a group together!

glitterfairy · 11/04/2007 23:49

Oh the agreement took over a year to be reached by the way and he refused to pay any arrears apart from £1000 which he now sasy he cannot afford as he is on JSA. Strangely people who know him claim he is working still! How he sleeps I have no idea.

climbingrosie · 12/04/2007 09:09

All my sympathies juicychops, glitterfairy, AMAZINWOMAN and Tinkerbel5, I'm in the same situation. These bloody men!! They should all be lined up and shot. How do they sleep at night?

The whole system sucks and CSA are so incompetent and slow.

I've been there too and now resign myself to the fact that I will never get any maintanance. I got a letter from CSA saying ex wasn't entitiled to pay anything as he wasn't working or claiming benefits!! So how do they think he supports himself? Ever sinse we split up he has worked cash in hand so as not to have to contribute anything, now he's buggered off abroad so still doesn't have to contribute. Makes me sooooo angry too.

...and they still go on about their right to see their children! What about their responsibilities as p[arents???

glitterfairy · 12/04/2007 09:12

Oh I so agree their rights and their love for their children have no boundaries and they tell everyone about them but when it comes to their actual repsonsibilities forget it and leave it to the mums!

I have no idea how they sleep or how men like this were ever in our hearts for more than a nano second.

J20BABYLOVESCHOCOLATEEGGS · 12/04/2007 13:01

pigs!

anybody know if you can claim maintenance from a father thats not wanting anything to do with his baby?

not due till oct, but he's refusing to have anything to do with me or the baby and making threats if i do try to claim any maintenance, sorry to thread hijack, i can start my own thread if you'd prefer

BandofMothers · 12/04/2007 13:05

You only get to keep £10 of the maintenance anyway and the rest is deducted from you r IS, so if you're entitled to £5 of his benefits you will not be that much worse off. Know that's not really the point, but just imagine his face when he finds out he still has to pay you!!!!!!

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juicychops · 12/04/2007 13:13

J20 my ex doesn't have anything to do with my ds but im still trying to claim maintenance. Just try and get his address and if possible his National Insurance number or address for place of work and it should be possible.

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mamazon · 12/04/2007 13:17

my ex is claiming sickness benefits so that he doesn't have to pay up and yet i KNOW he is working as A) pub doorman B) Freddie Flintoff lookalike and C) casual building work.

i have grassed him up to the dole but apparantly he isnt a high priority or something as nothing has been done!

so we don't get a penny

melminx · 12/04/2007 13:21

totally agree my ex did this too our son is now 17 and he owes me 15,000 in maintenance arrears. thing is his actually had an accident that might mean he'll never have use of his hands again! i believe what goes around comes around and from when i was 14 -18 he used his hands to beat me so i think justice works in mysterious ways!

J20BABYLOVESCHOCOLATEEGGS · 13/04/2007 14:09

thanks juicy, i have got a copy of his contract at work and know his address, i also know he doesn't pay any maintenance for his other child, so may have to go and see his other ex and join forces

good luck to everyone trying to get these lowlife's to face up to there responsibilities x

Harra · 13/04/2007 22:06

They are low lifes. My xp has had a nil assessment, apparently his net income is below £5 per week - poor lamb. However he does have over £1.3 million in assets which the CSA are looking into now (despite me telling them in Jan this was the case). A 'helpful' call from them today said that he does want to be involved in ds's life and would look after him full time!!!!! I know that - he has him 4 out of 14 nights. How my blood is boiling. I sent a letter off to the chief executive of the CSA today - probably do no good, but made me feel a bit better. As glitterfairy says 'don't know how they sleep at night or why they were ever in our hearts'.
We are going to mediation on Monday - he doesn't want to discuss money - brilliant.

FairyEdwards · 14/04/2007 00:23

he sounds like a bastard.

neva · 15/04/2007 10:03

I got a CSA calculation based on capital assets months ago. But still no money coming through. I can't understand why they won't enforce it. There is always one more hoop to go through. Seems its more important to be gentle with the dad than to make sure the child gets its needs met.

ShowOfHands · 15/04/2007 10:20

I can't believe there are so many of these oxygen thieves out there. No personal experience but a good friend's twunt of an ex left his job, went self-employed, sold his house and moved in with his parents (he's 35) and spent all of his cash on cars, toys and holidays so they couldn't chase him for too much money. The paltry amount he does pay (based on him lying about how much he earns), he pays by cheque- usually with the wrong date on it and has started a new system where he pays if my friend has 'earned it'. Eh? What? And he's another one who likes to play the 'woe is me, part-time Dad' role. He makes my fists itch.

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