Would I be mad to go for DC number 2?

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Since having DD1 (2) her father has been keen to have another one with me. I'm only now seriously considering it.
We had a very brief relationship when DD1 was conceived and the attraction was never there for me. It was an attempt to go against type and date the 'nice' and sensible guy. When he turned out not to be sensible, there was nothing to make me want to continue, so we decided to parent as friends.
Having DD changed him over time. He grew up and has been sensible, kind, generous and a lovely daddy, he has been through a major tragedy and come out strongly the other side. I still don't fancy him, but after having my DD, my sex drive has died, really and I can't imagine ever sleeping with anyone again! I've tried dating but it's not compatible with feeling like that.
Recently he had to look after DD alone while I was away for over a week. He was so good with her, I really appreciated what a lovely situation I was in and the idea of having another with him came up again.
We are great friends. Tell each other almost everything, holiday together, go to the cinema etc, outside of our daughter. We don't live together, I share a house with my mother as together she and I clubbed together to get a lovely house and garden. exP says he's very happy with this situation for raising DD in. He comes to stay overnight here, rather than having DD at his, although this will change when she's a bit older.
So, would I be crazy to go for a second baby in these circumstances? I'm 37. Should I be holding out for true love/someone I actually am attracted to? Or is that a mirage? I like the idea of my DC being fully related, is it all too weird?

Not weird at all. If you have a functional, loving healthy environment and are financially able to, then go for it.

However I have found having two much more difficult. The step up was bigger than I thought. There are two years between my two. My DH has stepped up massively. I would ensure that this would be the case in your situation too.

Also, apologies for posting here. I thought this was Aibu and have just realised its lone parents.

As long as it works for all parties, including dcs, and you are sure there is complete understanding, then why not. My only concern is if one of you finds a new love partner, there could be a lot of friction.

Trad nuclear families aren't necessarily the best.

I guess It's an upside to my ex being completely selfish, in that this is a question I will never face

Yeah, I have wondered about the new partner thing. I don't know how either of us would react to that and it's more likely to be him getting one since I've gone off fancying people. It could majorly fuck it all up if she was awful and I suppose our friendship as is could cause insecurity to most potential partners on both sides.
But I just don't fancy him. And he probably doesn't fancy me anymore, since I'm not the woman he first dated! The idea of sleeping together is laughable!

Mmmm! It might be laughable to you but I'd bet a weeks pay it isn't to him. He used to fancy you, you're a comfy known quantity, you have lots to talk about (dc) and you are unphased if he wanders off for a while. The perfect woman to a lot of men! I might be wrong but....

Sorry, I am v cynical

I'm a lone parent of two. My youngest was not born when my ex left. It was hard work but with a little help now and again do able

My main comment is you both sound like great parents to your child and who says parents have to live together so long as you parent together as a united loving mummy and daddy to your child/ren.

Go for it.

If I were in your situation and wanted another child I'd absolutely do it. Not only do you have a good relationship with dad, you have the support of your mum at home too.

To me it's a no-brainer besides being very certain that he doesn't want to rekindle your relationship.