Contact arrangements changing AGAIN......advice needed

[clareandbean]

My exp has been seeing our daughter (15mnths) at my house after nursery every thurs since she started nursery and every other weekend for a few hours. He now wants to stop seeing her after nursery cos his girlf doesn't like him coming to my house, and just see her every other weekend (which he has hardly been able to stick to up till now) for a few hours at his house, which is a shared house. So he wants to go from spending 22 hours a month to 10 with her. He says that the current arrangement is 'detrimental to his future' and he has to 'put himself first'. I have this in writing. He has always seemed perfectly happy to come to my house, I am never there but just come back when she is in bed so we don't spend any time together at all.
I am very angry as I have no family close by, I work 28 hrs a week and have no free time at all, so now will have even less. Not only that but I object to his girlf spending time with our child and I object to him taking her to where he lives which I do not consider to be a safe environment for a toddler. I also feel that it was all working OK and he is just changing things to annoy me.
We split up before I found out I was pregnant so I've done everything on my own.
Any opinions.....

Write back along the lines of how does he feel these new arrangements are in the interests of his daughter. That, as a parent, it is the child's needs that come first, not his. As the arrangements have been working well up until now and that there has been no substantial change in his circumstances which would mean they were no longer workable, you can't see any reason to change them.

Point out that his house is not geared up to a toddler's needs, which should be his priority, so that contact will have to continue at your house until such time as he gets his own place (i.e. not shared) and can demonstrate that he has taken your dd's needs into account.