Exp moved 60 miles away - contact issues

[Dixie20]

Too cut a long story short my Exp moved 60 miles away, meaning the children have to travel there every other wknd. This is now starting to cause problems as my oldest ds (8) has took an interest in a number of activities. The activities were previously weeks days but have now changed to wknds, exp is refusing to let ds attend on his wknd. This now has had an impact of his level and is falling behind. Anyone any experience as to how issues like this are viewed in court? For him to travel to the activity and back is too much for him. I just think it's really unfair that exp chose to live where he wanted and the children are missing out on joining things that they would have went to had he stayed local. Exp makes no effort to stay local and as soon as he has them he takes them to his town. He has no involvement in any of ds's activities or school things. I am looking to know what other people may have in their court orders that I could propose. My dd is 3. I know I will end up in court, I have gotten a new solicitor but I feel they don't give much advice as to what the outcome maybe and what is reasonable to ask for.

I didn't want to read and run. And I have no experience with courts however I have seem that eventhou courts know how important access Is. Activities are also important to a child

Unfortunately a judge will tell you not to arrange activities in exh contact time. Having a relationship with a parent is classed as a priority over a sport /hobby etc.

I expect you feel more worthwhile than a game of footy??
Been there with my ex who arranged every night and weekends to try and out me from dc lives. . He was put straight.

Ds coach was informed he could only play fortnightly which he wasn't penalised for. .

Sorry but I'm in a similar boat and agree with above. A judge won't value the activity over time with a parent. This includes birthday parties etc. It's very hard when you're dealing with the fall out from your child missing out, but you just have to remain neutral and supportive for your child. It's really shit.

I understand your frustration but no judge will limit contact for the sake of an activity nor will the judge dictate how either parent spends their time with their children. Your on a loser with this one. Best you can do is build as collaborative a relationship as possible with the ex. Dragging a losing case through court won't help.