Quick rant about my ex holding up my CSA payments. He's such a lying f**king looser!!

[juicychops]

CSA rang me yeaterday with an update on my case because i have been chasing them and chasing them its take months so far.

they wrote to my ex and he sent all his stuff back but said he has no pay slips (he only needed the last 3 months) because he lost them all when he moved house.

HE MOVED HOUSE 15 F**KING MONTHS AGO!!!!!

God i HATE this man, and i shouldn't even call his that!

I now have to wait even longer for his employer to send copies of his payslips. He thinks that because he wont give them his payslips he will get away with having to declaring his overtime.

God, this whole system is pants!

Rant over

Know how you feel - having huge problems myself getting any money from xp. CSA pretty appalling - wrote to me the other day saying that my child didn't live with me!!!!
But at the end of the day it's the bloody men who should pay and accept financial responsibilty for their children and we shouldn't have to need to use the CSA. Speaking to another woman who have had to use the CSA, her xp changed jobs every 3 months so they couldn't catch up with him - she never got a penny and wished she hadn't bothered - slighty different senario as it was an affair (he was married) so he hadn't wanted the baby etc but even so. The things people do. But soooo frustrating - really feel for you. Don't know your situation but my ds was a very wanted child from both sides and his father adores him but doesn't want to pay any money!! Sorry looks like I've started to rant too.

i know, some men are absolutely pathetic and i cant believe what some will do to avoid responsibility. My ds was very much wanted too but after a year xp had an affair and left and hasn't seen ds for over a year now!

Total dick head and so is his whole family. I will get money in the end and i hope he really struggles to pay it that it makes him damn right miserable and ends up having to sell the house that he struggled to buy which he couldn't afford in the first place!

i know it sounds horrible, but the shit he has put me and ds through the last few years he deserves everything he gets! and he is due a lot of bad things!!

Gosh, im so evil

I held off claiming child support for over 3 and a half years after I split with my dh because he kept threatening to sue for custody if I did with the reason being that if I needed the money I obviously couldn't manage alone and was not a suitable parent!

This is after the toad ran up debts of £20,000 which he has dumped me with, had affairs, left me for one of them, has another child with her, has bought a new house and car and goes on foreign holidays and has no contact with ds outside of the 2 nights per fortnight during which he stays with his father.

I eventually got wise and went to the CSA. I got an award and a payment schedule of when I could expect to receive my payments and so far nothing... nada... not a penny.

My ex has ignored their letters and warnings of wages arrestment, he has dodged their calls, even giving them the wrong work number - which I have corrected for them - and still nothing.

Oh well... it was worth the look on his face - which sadly I did not see - when he received the first letter!

At least I have the knowledge that one day my ds will see his father for what he really is and all the years of struggling and constantly having to fight him will be worth it because I know that I have done the best I could to make this situation as reasonable as I could for my son's sake.

gosh sounds like you have had it tough. I wish i had seen my ex's face when he found out i was going through CSA. It took a year for me to decide to do it as he kept promising he would start seeing ds one day and i didn't want to ruin that for ds. But i eventually got some sense and realised that day would never come.

And his stupid bitch girlfriend who he left me for will find out the hard way what a bastard he is

In the long term we will know we have done the best for our dc and they will find out what idiots their fathers are - but it is so annoying. PP - you have had a tough time. I too feel very sorry for my xp's future girlfriend if he gets one or he may go back to shagging his ex which he did when he was with me - and I won't feel sorry for her - they deserve each other. Juicy chops - you have bought out worst in me!!

I was delighted to receive a call from the CSA last week to say that my ex is still dodging their letters and calls so they have now arrested his wages so I am pleased to say that my lo will finally receive some money.

Maybe, sometimes patience and faith do work. I have heard such horror stories of people waiting years and years for something being done and then never getting anything at all so I am so impressed that I have not had to do that. I am hoping that this is the year that my ds and I turn a corner and have things going our way for a change.

Thank God for wonderful parents, they have been amazingly supportive.