I don't knlw how old thos thread is but I literally only signed up to be able to comment on this, because frankly it's made me so mad. All these people putting this mother down for making this decision have clearly never been in this situation, or haven't had it as bad whatsoever, in actually disgusted with the comments of people saying how appalling it is that she has stopped her son seeing the father. Up until a few years ago I was exactly the same, I got my tongue and did nothing while my son's father scanned in and out of his life, EVERYTHING was on his terms, which effects our children aswell. My son is now 12 and has decided he doesn't want to see his dad at the moment which frankly is great in a way, as I've not had to tell him that his dad isn't a father, he's figured it out for himself, BUT, I have such empathy for this person who has posted because these "fathers" get to do what they like, when they like, they can make our lives as difficult as possible, fake what they are earning along with so many other things that we feel less of a person, we are helpless, but when we decide to take it into our own hands, and bearing in mind, these dad's aren't FATHERS which is no good for our kids either WE are condemned for it, it is absolutely disgusting. Being in this situation for so long pushes you to HAVE to do something, ANYTHING to prove that you have the power, not them, because most of them are emotionally abusive aswell, it is mentally exhausting and makes you sick when NOTHING is done to sort these degenerate selfish fathers out. Us mothers do EVERYTHING, while fathers do NOTHING. Now you lot who have put this woman down for her decision have heard FAR too many times, "don't use your child as a bargaining tool", I don't see it that way, I see a woman struggling to bring up THEYRE child, NOT just hers, while having to grin and bear it, why the hell SHOULD "fathers" get to spend time with they're kids if they aren't paying for them! Or lying about what they are earning?!, if they are lying about what they're earning that in itself is proof enough that they don't give a damn about they're child!!, it's insane to me and this is where us women get stuck, ill, tired and mentally drained, because stupid quotes like this are thrown about, that's why men are getting away with it. SOMETIMES when you realise there is no one fighting your corner or your child's but you and you are at the bottom of the bloodiest pit you HAVE to fight back, you have to say ENOUGH is ENOUGH, no one cares about me and my child like I do, no one other than YOU can change this situation and even if you can't you have to sure as hell try no matter what that takes. The TRUTH is, no one gives a damn, men have NO responsibility whatsoever to be fathers that's the truth, by law even though everybody says but they can't do that,but they HAVE to be fathers the law says so, it's bull, I should know as I've been to court, I don't know why, but I personally think the government and the justice system must have a real dislike for women, I would go as far as hatred actually, because what some of us go through while the fathers get away with doing nothing is nothing but inhumane, it is disgraceful, unforgivable and unjust, this is the only explanation I can come up with,or else why aren't FATHERS made to do they're part? Come on now...personally, I give this woman praise for doing everything, she is probably struggling just like me and alot of my friends while he lies about his earnings. I don't know why people especially you mothers who have been so negative towards her don't understand that when you make the decision that this woman has made it is because she is at the bottom, she has had enough of this utter BULL and it's never an easy decision, WE want our kids to have a father and we also would like to have some bloody time to ourselves sometimes because we have no life so I've never understood why people think that it's an easy decision or even that its wring frankly, when you have been pushed, yes PUSHED by the father which IS what they do..they push us by lying and being awful fathers, it's they're choice as far as I'm concerned! Pay for your child, spend time with your child, or bugger off!!, stop giving these fathers the RIGHT to do nothing, as far as I'm concerned the father deserves it, as for our children frankly if they are lying about wages to get out of paying for they're child then the child shouldn't have them in they're lives, mum knows best...WE know best as mothers, if we done half the things men do we would be totally put down for it. The only thing I can think is that you women aren't at the point that thos woman is, because if you were you would understand. No one wants to stop they're child having a father lol they are just sick and tired, literally, of getting no help when they didn't make the child themselves. I don't care who says what anymore, I don't care if the courts say oh but you can't do that..oh really? But he can do nothing and lie about his wages so he can get out of paying go which benefits his child? Give me a bloody break, as far as I'm concerned now that I know how the justice system works (It doesn't btw), you do what you've got to to stay sane my love, your doing everything for that child