Feeling some resentment toward my dc?

[CharleyEmily]

Is this normal? I have a toddler ds and I quite often have feelings of resentment towards him; of who his father is and the fact that it means that his dad will always be in my life. I also worry that he'll end up like his dad and his family. I love my ds with all my heart and feel so guilty for feeling this way. But as he gets older, the more I feel this way. It doesn't help that he'd choose his father anytime over me, despite only seeing him a few hours a fortnight.

I think your judgement is clouded...

Your DS is half you and will be influenced by the enviroment he is raised in.

A toddler wants to see his dad because he hasn't for a fortnight..You are there and always will be.

Yes, I get where you're coming from especially if you are just out of a bad relationship. You shouldn't worry too much that he will be like his father when he grows up, he has you in him. I imagine most personalities have their strengths and faults it depends on us to guide them to get the best out of their character. I agree that he probably prefers his father because he only sees him every fortnight, try not to give it too much thought. Look for more things you enjoy doing with him and do everything in your power to get rid of that sentiment.
Anyway I hear you, my dd has an absolutely horrible father and she adores him, it is a hard one to swallow, but it isn't for her to understand.