sick of hearing about how wonderful my exs girlfriend is

[Nellia]

So my 6 year old came home after spending the day with her dad, well I should say his girlfriend as all I hear about is how his girlfriend played this with her and did that and said this.... I AM SICK OF IT. He took them round to his friends where they all sat round having a right old chat ( which they never did with me) Is it really bad that I want to say that mummy doesnt need to hear about what happens when she is with daddy...
We split up 9 months ago and are actually still married the girlfriend is a new thing of a couple of months. However, Last week he was on my doorstep arguing over the fact that my lack of flexibility around what time he arrives to pick up our child is pushing him away and making him not want to bother. He tells are 6 year old that shes not his girlfriend but given that they are permanently attached its pretty obvious. I dont want him back so I just dont get why Im so annoyed.

Is it really bad that I want to say that mummy doesnt need to hear about what happens when she is with daddy...

If I'm being totally honest, yes. Even if this GF doesn't hang around there will probably be someone else on the scene, and possibly one day your husband may marry someone new and they may well build a genuine relationship with your DS. I know it's incredibly tough but you can't tell your son you don't want to him what he's got to say. It'll make him feel awkward as hell.

However, Last week he was on my doorstep arguing over the fact that my lack of flexibility around what time he arrives to pick up our child is pushing him away and making him not want to bother.

This is a separate, but serious issue. I wouldn't answer the door to him, I wouldn't respond to unnecessary communication. It's not your job to make him "bother" and he's trying to shift the blame on you. Stick to your agreed times and if he tries to change it just say you won't be changing it. But I would highly recommend cutting all the unnecessary communication and endless confrontation out of your life because you will be much happier without it.

But as to your son talking about his dad's girlfriend, don't stop him doing this as it isn't fair.

Sorry you're having such a tough time.

Can you come up with an easy standard response like "that's nice DC, you know mummy's happy when you have fun" and then move on/distract her? Something which acknowledges what she's said but doesn't prompt further details.

Whether or not the relationship goes anywhere you need to try to find a way to protect yourself from hurt with this or other new partners. And it's early days with her being in the picture so the novelty is likely to wear off.

Please try and find a way to be okay with it. Many years down the line my DH ex won't let the DSC mention DH or me at hers. I was nothing to do with their split and she's in a relationship herself. DSC can talk about anything here, her, her DP, anything at all. To this day they're not allowed to take anything from our house to hers, e.g. Stuff they've baked or drawn here. It only hurts them. It's nothing to us at all! And she doesn't know what she's missing out on by cutting herself off from a big part of their lives.