Daughter calling for daddy

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Whenever I get cross with her or she hurts herself, she cries for daddy & it is breaking my heart. He's around, but only once a week.

I have a great relationship with DD (4) otherwise, but when I'm telling her off & am cross & she just cries for daddy this is really testing me.

Please help.

Ah my DD does this. It's a phase. They've all done it at some point. If it helps he said she cries for me when she's with him!

Honestly, and I speak from experience, you need to ignore it.

It's normal. We all want someone to be 'on our side' when we are in trouble.

If you are able to, try to both be on the same page about what's expected from her, it'll make everyone's life much better. If you can't she will get used to Mummy rules & Daddy rules and want the other parent when she's in trouble. It's just how it is.

It's VERY hard to hear though, especially if your split wasn't amicable and you'd like to string the bastard up with fishing line. It's hard to bite your tongue and not have a rant about 'your bloody father'...💐

Thanks all

Sadly things aren't great with my ex.

I've tried the 'daddy's not here though at the moment sweetheart so he can't give you a cuddle' as well as the 'daddy would say the same as me' but it just continues.

Today I got cross, shouted at her to do as I asked, she got upset, I got upset. It was awful.

Later I calmly told her how upset the whole thing had made me (not her daddy cries in particular), asked her why she was crying for daddy - she just said she wanted daddy cuddles.

I'm finding it so tough. :( hopefully it will pass.

Feeriswheel can you tell me any more?

I feel like ignoring it just blocks her dad out from her life, which I don't want to do.

I'll pm you later.

O can you please pm me? I can't find how to do that on the app?

I don't know if this will help. My partner and I are still together and my 3 year old does this when either of us discipline her. I respond with Daddy loves you very much and you will see him at bed time/ tomorrow. I love you too and I need to keep you safe/clean/happy which is why I need you to hold my hand/brush your teeth/go to sleep now. Daddy wants you to be safe/clean/happy too.

Thanks x

Ferris, I've never PM-ed before...can't figure out how to but will have a look after my little one is in bed.

Thanks much appreciated

DD is nearly 4 and going through exactly the same at the moment. I made the mistake recently of saying "I miss daddy too" and burst into tears which didn't help the situation. I just wanted him to magically appear and make her stop screaming.
This has got to pass eventually.

DS is 4 and the same at the moment!
I usually just say 'you will see Daddy on Saturday and can give him a big cuddle then'

It is so hard though