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AKP79 · 18/07/2017 11:23

Just looking for a bit of support and advice. My DS is 5 and he is off on his first holiday abroad with his dad and I'm an emotional mess. He's really excited about it, which is great, but I just feel so sad that I'm missing out. I would love to watch him enjoying himself, playing in the pools and on the beach. It's such a wrench to know that it's yet another experience I will miss out on sharing.

I don't have a good relationship with his dad, he's an unpleasant and controlling man. Last year he told me they were all going to France for a week, I was given the times of the ferry crossings and the campsite and he promised to text when they arrived. 48 hours after the ferry arrived I still hadn't heard anything despite calling and texting only to be told they weren't in France and were staying in a static caravan in Cornwall. This experience has done nothing to help with the anxiety side of my son going abroad either.

I manage to say all the right things and behave in 100% the right way as far as my son and ex goes, but inside I just feel so so sad.

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Wildheart · 26/07/2017 15:36

Yes that must be hard. Sorry not much advice but just not to read and go, big hug 🤗

eyebrowsonfleek · 26/07/2017 18:16

That's crappy behaviour from your ex.
Mine is due to take the kids on Monday and he's yet to send me an address where they're staying. (If I'm lucky he'll send it on Monday before he picks them up)
I wish I could afford a holiday but we'll be having a short break between them coming back and going back to school.

AKP79 · 27/07/2017 11:08

Thank you both for replying.

I understand how you feel eyebrowsonfleek it's so hard.

I'm on day 6 of 9 of him being away, I've had some very weepy days, but knowing I'm over halfway through is helping. I got a text when they arrived this year and have had a Face Time call this morning (at my request). Can't wait to see him.

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Fabulousdahlink · 09/08/2017 14:00

I know I will be the same when my DC's go of to dad's for 9 days.
I know I need to keep busy so I don't just sit and miss them both. Sad I
I know but I have made the effort to organise a couple of cheap days out planned and plans to meet people for coffee etc, and a bit of domestic furniture moving around to do. I know I need to keep busy. I am missing out on being with them...but they will be OK. Even cleaning out the freezer or picking blackberries...keeping busy is definitely the answer for me., and I suppose we will just get used to it.
I was dreadful the first time they spent the weekend- hurt, angry, lonely...massive emotional tsunami. Now I can anticipate it and deal with it, it isn't so bad.

Fabulousdahlink · 01/09/2017 23:41

AKP79
How did you cope? How are you now?

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