Feeling bitter

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Feel bitter that my life has changed so much and his hasn't

My ex's life has changed in that I don't feed his spending habit, other than that he still has his friends fawning over him and not pulling him up on his crap, and a new gf who I suspect does the same.
Me, my life has totally changed, I don't have a social life at all now, but the biggest and best difference is I don't have a toxic person that I have to deal with every day. (Still got to deal with him sometimes due to DC, but it's kept to bare minimum).
When things get tough, I remember this and it makes me smile and it gets me through the day.
I am getting back to how I used to be before I met ex, my confidence is getting there, my feeling of self worth is taking time, but it's moving in the right direction.

OP, are there things that you don't have to deal with anymore? Are there ways that you are changing for the better? Just remind yourself of these and smile, especially do this on the harder days. You will be growing as a person where as your ex will not, he has missed an opportunity which you can grab with both hands
Good luck and enjoy the possibilities that have opened and will open up to you in the future.

I totally agree he's still spending his days and nights smoking weed, drinking alcohol and playing on his Xbox. No financial difference. No effort made except twice in 7 months.
Whereas my life couldn't be any more different as the sole carer of a baby, which needs no explaining.

However. It is me that gets to cuddle her to sleep, see all her milestones, and actually have a proper relationship to her. He will never, ever be able to get this time back with her. If they end up having a relationship, Id love to see how he tries to explain why he contributed nothing towards her baby-hood. He'll never have memories of her cries, her getting her first teeth, the first time she crawled or ate solid food or even know what her favourite toys are. When I'm up for the 7th time in a night and changing multiple nappies an hour and start to resent him, I remind myself of all that.

I'm guessing you're in a similar situation, it's incredibly hard, but you'll likely have so much better a relationship with your DC than him

Don't you ever wonder why they do this? Why they promise so much, wine and dine say they love you, see there beautiful child , then turn into waste of space with no thought of any one just wish I new why , if I was a guy who wanted to drink take drugs game club ect then I'd do that I wouldn't get caught up with any one wouldn't get kids involved same for like mind women, but dragging innocent ppl in and kids that I don't get

Because they're selfish and have little thought for anyone else, I think you sound like you're struggling OP, is everything okay?

Not really hun , I feel like I'm fighting to get me back with all iv gone through,I get so angry that iv had to pick up the pieces on my own, he is still on scene claims to love me and our child ect but iv forgotten how many chances of given nothing gets better and it breaks my heart cuz I thought he loved me and wanted this as much as me