what last name to put on the birth certificate?

[J20BABYLOVESCHOCOLATEEGGS]

baby due in Oct
daddy doesn't want to know
hate my last name
dd(6) has got her father's last name

so what name do i give it? mine, its fathers(don't know if thats possible though, if he isn't involved) or can i just make one up?

i know its stupid to worry about this kind of thing, but it does

btw always swore to myself i would never inflict my last name on my children

You can be known by whatever name you choose. You can call your new baby whatever you choose, too. Your name, father's name, one you make up. Only legal restriction is that you aren't intending to mislead, for criminal purposes etc. HTH

i think you can have whatever you like. when xp refused to be involved with ds2 i put his name down purely because i wanted ds1 and ds2 to have the same surname (they have the same dad). what about your mums or grans maiden name?

can't you give it both? would yours be so bad as a middle name and who knows what dad's reaction will be when baby actually arrives - you can always change it later if you want. my children are double barrelled and i kept my name by the way.

or a family members first name which could work as a surname?

After bad experience I would recommend not putting fathers name down if he doesn't want to know - got a feeling it gives him more rights which you may come to resent if he doesn't want to know

can't use my mum's maiden name due to various reasons. the thing is unless i give it either my name or the same name as my dd(which would go down well with ex inlaws ) we are all 3 going to have different last names, could be a bit confusing, i might make an exotic name up and change us all

How about changing your name and giving the baby your new name?

J20 - you can call your baby what you want.

Anything.

Smith, Jones, J20Babyson, whatever.

Why dont' you change your name by deed poll, you can change your dd's name too and call your new baby that name also.

I changed my whole name by deed poll and my dd's surnames only cost £60 online and its effective immediatley.

Its 100% legal.

why not do yourself a favour and think up something really cool that sums you up then make them all the same so your kids feel part of the same bunch? nothing too twatty of course, you know how kids are.

but then i'd have to change everything wouldn't i, like bank, utilities companies...etc plus dd and her dad wouldn't let me change her name, but maybe double barell it

so any ideas for funky last names?

Yes but you'l be amazed at how easy it is! I thought it would be a big job changing everything over buy it only took a phone call on most occasions.

Yes you could doubble barrall your dd's name, save you having a name you don't like

I Flicked throught the phone book and the page it opened on was the name I took

It would be cheaper for you to change as its less names than me IYKWIM, plus they also send you the official legal deed poll documents in the post so you can declair it to IS and passport people etc.

You can change your name to whatever you like and you can also put yourself as a title too go from Miss to Mrs (you can do this anyway) but you can have it registered as Mrs if youre not already, if you want to that is

Sorry if you wanted to change and are unsure about going with an online company I can email you the details of the people I went with (you pay via Paypal too so its safe).

Just to put your mind at ease

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If i was you i would still put your surname especially if the father wants nothing to do with the little one.

my son has his dads surname and he hasn't seen his dad for over a year. I cant change it to mine without his dad's permission (which he will never give) and now i have to have ds grow up not sharing the same surname as me. It has caused a lot of problems.

If i was you i would still put your surname especially if the father wants nothing to do with the little one.

my son has his dads surname and he hasn't seen his dad for over a year. I cant change it to mine without his dad's permission (which he will never give) and now i have to have ds grow up not sharing the same surname as me. It has caused a lot of problems.

I agree with Juicy,

It can be very confusing when everyone has different surnames, and yes you cant take off names from the BC. Seems too much of a privalage for your xp who wants nothing to do with your dc.

You can always add but you cant take away.

Act in haste repent at leasure

thanks for all your views, i will have a think abot it and let you all know, just a note, my dd thinks i should give it her name, all of it, even if its a boy!