I now have a solicitors letter

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Because he didn't get his way with the transport arrangements , I now have a 5 page solicitors letter more or less dictating his parenting plan, how I should parent , what I should feed them , what time they should go to bed , what I should do if holidays are booked. basically what I should do . Which in his eyes seems to be sit on my arse and look after his kids whist he does what ever he wants..... Breath woman breath... ffffffff oooo fffffooooo ( me taking deep breaths)

Any way , do I need to responds to this letter in the amount of time they have given me . which isn't long.

Oh and to top it off he's threatened to take me to court for residency.

Okay im ok now....

No, you don't need to explain within a restricted time limit. You don't mention what you want, but when you're ready write down how events can be arranged and wait for the solicitor's letter threatening court.

Im quite happy to do that , hes already threatened to take me to court for residency .

if we cant agree he will take me to court , well I have 200 emails with you ranting so ;lets bring it on.

A solicitor's letter actually has no more importance than any other letter. Feel free to completely ignore it, as you would if he had written it himself. Which he sort of did, since the solicitor has just written what he told him/her to write.

(And the solicitor will have charged him a pretty penny for the privilege of having a secretary write up his rants...)

Deadline for response, indeed.

This all stems from me not being able to collect the kids from his house because of work . He wasn't happy / doesn't believe me . He simply decided that I should collect them after 4 years . its the other end of town. just physically impossible when I get out of work.

I need to instruct my solicitors anyway . Mediation wont work , been there done that learnt a very expensive lesson. he will stamp his feet like a toddler thinking im going to change my mind. Effectivly he is asking me to change my working hours which is unacceptable. The rest of the letter is just telling me how to bring our children up .

Nope it doesn't state without predudice . that in this case is irrelevant as it would be shown in a bundle as it is nothing to do with finances. A lot of people use it thinking the judge wont see it . Which is incorrect in family cases involving no finances.

He's a nasty abusive arse, bring court on!!!

Still a stressful horrid thing to go to just because he's a bully.

flowers

Hopefully some of the posters who have been through this will be along soon to give some much needed empathy, support and advice of likely time scales and so on.

Thanks goodness your DC have you in their lives!

KOKO

He can't dictate how you parent and the courts won't change where children live unless there's a really good reason the children can't live with the current parent.

I don't hink me being a farty bum counts.

thanks Random , to be fair I was expecting it. I will have some surprises in court all ready for him .

You my solicitor described a similar letter as rude and intrusive and wrote to ExH to say that asking for Day to Day description of DCs activities was impractical.

hes asked the kids and put it in his "diary"

The kids were confused why. I knew exactly why . Just let them spend time with you instead of grilling them every week.