Shared parenting -50/50

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Hi
All advice welcome please

We are separating, we are not married, and agreed to have the kids 50/50.

My question is - is maintenance due as we both have equal costs, due to having them the same amount of time ?
Thanks all

It depends generally on how amicable you both are.

As my partners ex is the "resident" parent (receives all the benefits and is primary address and contact), although we have the kids 4 nights one week and 3 nights the other and have paid for all school uniforms, shoes, trips etc, cms calculator says we are required to give her £30 a month.

We currently give her over six times that amount, it is crippling us financially and will giving her notice that it will be decreasing soon. I doubt that will go down well! (can you tell it's not amicable! And she's an entitled madam!)

My ex and I on the other hand are amicable and although I am "resident" parent, have them 60/40 and buy all school uniforms, clothes etc and send things to stay at his (because I get all the benefits, otherwise not sure they'd get used for the kids) he doesn't pay maintenance and it works for us.

Hopefully it works well for you and you can agree to something that benefits the kids and doesn't cause stress to the other parent.

Thanks for the information.
We are trying to be amicable and sensible so hoefuly can agree on something that suits everyone

If it is literally 50/50 so 4/3 one week 3/4 the next then CMS will say there is no chance case for maintenance as everything should be equally shared. It should be 50/50 for all expenses, probably fair would be both parents buy clothes and toys for each house and the day to day wants. Then split clubs, school dinners, trips, large clothe items trainers etc. Then split the cost of large school items shoes , blazer etc?

Jacketej, cheers for that info. It is literally 50/50, more when we have them extra days because she's asked.

It won't make a blind bit of difference in her mind, but it will help to stop me worring when she does get upset (it is understandable).

I stay out of it, he has to sort this stuff out as it's not my place to interfere; however, it's difficult to not be affected by it.

And he wouldn't stop giving her anything, any extra helps, I just get irritated by how entitled some people can be.

me and my exh have 50:50 shared residence and no maintenance is paid either way. we are pretty amicable though.

We have a joint bank account still which we just use for the dc stuff. we each pay in £150 a month and from that we for clothes, uniform and school dinners as well school trips and extra curricular activities.

Works for us.